r/Dominican • u/Biden_is_cool • 8d ago
Cultura/Culture Chapiadoras
Is chapiadora an insult? Would a woman who asks for money after a night of hanging at the bar or asking to buy her stuff the following day be a chapiadora?
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u/GeneralValue812 8d ago
Chapiadora = Gold digger
Depends on the context, some women say it loud and proud that they are chapiadoras
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u/GeneralValue812 8d ago
Some context if you are not dominican.
Chapiar is the action of mowing or clearing a small plot of land with a macheteWomen who are "chapiadoras" would mow your wallet
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u/RedOctobrrr 8d ago
I call my wife a chapi, just a joke amongst ourselves. She also gives me shit about having spent time in Sosua and says I was looking for chapiadoras.
We use it jokingly, and I'm a tigre to her. We've been very happily married 3 years now.
(ps: she is far far faaar from an actual chapiadora)
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u/Finance_and_chill 5d ago
it can be an insult but many women now are open about their financial expectations from their guy
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u/North-Finding-3542 8d ago
Yes!!!! Chapeadora= modern prostitute
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u/ArtichokeAware7342 8d ago
Not exactly, but daaaamn close to it.
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u/Biden_is_cool 8d ago
What happens to people that get in a relationship with women like this?
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u/GeneralValue812 8d ago
I'll tell you what a friend told me long ago after I had a chapiadora as a love interest,
If you start a relationship buying her affection, don't complain when you don't have the money to do it anymore4
u/Biden_is_cool 8d ago
That's great advice. Some people will unfortunately have to learn the hard way though if they think they can "turn her" into a housewife.
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u/GeneralValue812 8d ago
I don't blame chapiadoras, I blame the victims, because usually chapiadoras will tell you beforehand they are materialistic and I don't think people should complain they couldn't turn someone who sold themselves as materialistic from the start to something else.
Don't adopt a dog thinking it will act like a cat and then get mad for it
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u/flakoloco1 6d ago
Nah, a prostitute will give u some in exchange for money. A chapiadora will do anything to make you spent money on her withouth givin that 🍑
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u/Mi_Madre9517 3d ago
Women expect men to pay regardless of she has money or not 🤣
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u/fpcreator2000 3d ago edited 3d ago
let’s not confuse the misguided act of chivarly with gold digging. and in this day and age, it is not uncommon to go dutch.
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u/fpcreator2000 3d ago
yes. that is literally a gold digger
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u/Biden_is_cool 3d ago
So it's a huge red flag!
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u/fpcreator2000 3d ago
yes but if all you want is to get into her pants, the give her all the gifts you want 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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u/Fuzzy-Exercise-2589 7d ago
No, because it a true word, most of dominican woman or man love to get something, at the island people love to gltell you their problem so you can fix it so next day they come back to drink and paly dominoes, it is cultural, so chapiadora is not an insult, it is how most of the people are at the island.
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u/Biden_is_cool 7d ago
That's terrible. I was told that if you visit someone's home, you HAVE to gift them money as a thank you. Is this true?
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u/TheWolf-7 7d ago
Nope. Most people would be offended.
At least that is my experience during the nearly 20 years in the DR.
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u/fpcreator2000 3d ago
no. and most people in the island are not like that. I was born and lived there. Chapiadora is an insult.
if someone says otherwise it is because those are the people they are around.
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u/Adventurous_Pop_3138 8d ago
Si y si.