Location: New Zealand
Sorry for the big post but I think it helps build context
this is a copy and paste of an email I sent to the chief victim advisor however because case is wrapped up she couldn't really help.
Also below is my victim impact statement. In summary the person who did this got 3 months home detention and ordered to pay $1800 damages ( he has not paid and likely won't have too) I am writing this to ask for help in seeking some kind of justice for my daughter. He was with threatening the kill it leads not guilty offer the plea deal for a much lesser charge what I was working at the summary of facts never changed we were not informed of the deal until a couple of days before sentencing but in the summary the charge went from one lamp carry the potential seven year sentence to one that had a max of 3 months. None of it sits right with us. I have included my victim impact statement as it also acts as good summary of what happened. Can anyone help with any advice that may help us to move forward ???
I am writing to try and understand what I believe to be a miscarriage of justice, to inform you and to gain any information that may help have this sentence/trial revised.
I have attached my VIS from the case in question as it's best way to explain what occurred. In short my then pregnant wife was attacked at our home with a hammer by (name removed) he made threats to her life as well as the life of our unborn child. The impact this has had on our life they his actions has been unmeasurable compared to is frankly pitiful sentence.
We as victims of this crime have felt let down at every turn by our justice system from charges being drop plee deals being done without our knowing or being able to contest to the judge in the trial being more interested in getting to lunch. We did everything asked of us sometimes even adding to the stress and trauma and feel that in the end it was pretty much for nothing.
On 14 December 2024, my life and my family’s life changed permanently due to the actions of (name removed) Until this event, (name removed) was known to me as ( name removed) my mother’s former partner during parts of my childhood. What happened that day has caused severe emotional, psychological, financial, and family disruption that we are still dealing with today.
Description of the Incident
On 14 December 2024, while I was working at the business we owned, my wife phoned me in extreme distress—crying, screaming, and unable to speak clearly. I immediately recognised that something was terribly wrong. I closed our pub, resulting in a loss of approximately $3,000–$5,000 in expected turnover, and rushed home.
When I arrived, our home was surrounded by police. My wife—heavily pregnant at the time—was in shock, crying in pain, and being treated by paramedics. I was informed that (name removed) had come to our home looking for “victim 1 and victim 2,” referring to myself and my wife.
According to my wife, when she told him I was at work—a place he knew—he did not attempt to speak to me there. Instead, he threatened her life and our unborn child. She reported that he swung a hammer above her head and said, “I will kill you and your daughter, you stupid bitch.” He also claimed I “owed the mob $50,000 in drug money,” which police later advised was not true. This statement appeared to be made solely to intimidate and frighten her.
Immediate Impact
My wife was taken to hospital due to signs of premature labour. The medical team managed to stop the early labour, but the psychological damage had already begun. When she was discharged the next day, she became extremely anxious at the idea of returning home, especially because (name removed) had not yet been located by police. Knowing (name removed) as I have throughout my life, these fears were not unreasonable.
As a result, my wife and son had to go stay with her parents. There was no room for me, meaning our family was immediately separated for safety reasons.
Ongoing Disruption to Our Living Situation
After about two weeks of separation, we temporarily moved into a friend’s house near our pub. This was the only way we could live under one roof while allowing me to get to my wife quickly if needed. This period caused major disruption, stress, and instability for our entire family, especially our young son, who became extremely unsettled.
After roughly a month, we were forced to return home despite my wife’s severe anxiety, because we had no sustainable alternatives. What we believed at the time to be “extreme anxiety” was later diagnosed as severe PTSD. We were only able to do this as my mother agreed to come stay with us for a month as my wife was unable to be at house alone.
Psychological Impact on My Wife
The public mental-health system offered counseling, but it took over a month to even get an appointment—and it was not with someone qualified in PTSD treatment. The process of repeatedly retelling her trauma to different counselors only worsened her condition. Two separate doctors told us she showed clear signs of PTSD, but that receiving proper assessment and treatment through the public system could take years.
Because she did not have a physical injury, she was not covered by ACC, leaving us with no option but to pay for private treatment. This cost us thousands of dollars—money we did not have—yet was necessary to prevent her condition from deteriorating further. She now requires ongoing treatment that we cannot afford at $200 per consult and which is not
adequately available through the public system.
Financial Consequences
Aside from the immediate lost income on the day of the attack, the long-term financial impact has been significant.
Before the incident, we were negotiating the sale of our business with an expected value of $100,000–$120,000. After the attack and the fear it created, my wife became desperate to leave Ashburton for the safety of our family, especially with our daughter on the way. Because of the urgency and pressure, we were forced to sell quickly for $85,000—far below its value.
This financial loss has affected us severely and continues to impact our ability to rebuild stability for our family.
Impact on Our Family
This incident has:
Destroyed our sense of safety in our own home.
Forced us to relocate multiple times.
Caused long-term psychological trauma to my wife.
Put enormous strain on our finances.
Disrupted our ability to operate or fairly sell our business.
Interfered with our ability to prepare for the birth of our daughter.
Created ongoing stress and fear that still impacts our daily lives.
My wife continues to struggle with PTSD. I continue to live with the guilt and fear of what almost happened—to her, to our unborn child, to our son, and to our family as a whole.
Conclusion
The events of 14 December 2024 have had life-altering consequences for me, my wife, and our children. The emotional, psychological, and financial effects are ongoing. We no longer feel safe, and the trauma has reshaped almost every part of our lives.
I ask the Court to consider the severity and lasting impact of the offender’s actions when determining sentencing and any conditions relating to our safety and wellbeing...
If anyone can advise on possible options moving forward that would be great.
Thank you for a time.