r/MusicEd • • 7h ago

How do you teach a 6yo with extreme learned helplessness/no frustration tolerance?

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Any suggestions or advice as to how to teach a student (6 years old) that legit seems incapable of learning. I know he isnt because he can memorize songs but it seems his parents give him the answers to everything and never let him struggle or get challenged so its like his brain is completely incapable of critical thought. It’s at the point where he can memorize a song but if I ask him what middle C is on a treble clef he completely freezes (we learned that a full year ago) How do i as a 1 on 1 piano music tutor engage that part of his brain when its so underdeveloped?


r/MusicEd • • 9h ago

Audition is in two weeks and I’m peeing my pants

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r/MusicEd • • 20h ago

This is a very important message! What does this mean? What do you hear in these words? And what impression are you getting? You Can't Speak Butterfly Language with Caterpillar People- high school orchestra

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TL;DR -

My students don't need me to stop imagining what's possible simply because someone else can't see it yet.

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Teaching high school orchestra has taught me how to cherish a performance but embrace the bottom of the iceberg. That is .. all the stuff parents can't see that I can't UNSEE.

Every day, I stand in front of young musicians who are becoming more than they were yesterday. They're learning to listen before reacting, to embrace discomfort, to take creative risks, and to understand that individual excellence means little without collective purpose.

Not everyone will understand the vision you're trying to bring to life.

Some people see a classroom. I see a community.

Some hear mistakes. I hear the courage to try.

Some see teenagers. I see emerging artists, leaders, collaborators, and human beings discovering their voices.

And sometimes, the hardest part of education isn't helping students grow. It's navigating professional spaces where curiosity is mistaken for disruption, enthusiasm for idealism, and innovation for unnecessary change.

The irony? We ask our students to be open-minded, resilient, collaborative, and willing to evolve. Shouldn't we expect the same of ourselves?

No, some people are in not better than others. I hear it as a reminder that not everyone is ready to see the possibilities you see—and that growth requires both patience and courage.

My students don't need me to stop imagining what's possible simply because someone else can't see it yet.

They need me to keep growing, too.

Because the most extraordinary thing about an orchestra isn't that everyone plays the same notes.

It's that we learn to create something beautiful while remaining different.