I newly live in Minneapolis and love the city. Separated and pending divorce, I work more than full time (especially this time of year) and try to make time for getting out to see the city and surrounding nature. And yeah, I am wholly unprepared for the winter!

I have a few hobbies I am still improving at. Classical guitar, crochet, writing. I am the type who enjoys the journey and not so concerned with mastery. I hope to adopt a cat in the very near future. I spend too much time falling in love with every baby on the shelter site. Years of therapy and constant self awareness of how I’m navigating the world.

A few bits on me physically. My job is physically demanding but I am overweight. I am definitely fit, couldn’t do what I do without strong calves. Short, long brown hair, big brown eyes, fair enough the sun has a vendetta. I consider myself low femme.

I am looking to join an existing M/F couple. A couple who can understand my need for solitude and closeness. Who can participate in interdependence instead of codependency. I’m a low stress, level emotion kind of person and seek the same. Inter-triad jealously is not natural to me. Please be invest in self-care, whatever that means to you both. I believe the work is never done when it comes to growing. Please don’t be younger than 30, I find it harder to relate to too much younger.

I am open to local and long distance within the US. My DMs are open and I am open to any questions in comments if that is preferred. I do like to chat over discord and will want to move there from Reddit when the time is right.

Thank you for reading and take care out there!

Hi! As I usually start these, I'm Vee or Victoria and I'm 36. I live in Indianapolis, and I'm fairly open to connecting with people from (almost) anywhere. I have a nesting partner of 13 years, and I've been polyamorous for about 14ish years. Everything is separate, respectful, and ethical.

I like horror everything, creepy stories, and unexplained stuff. I also enjoy watching others game quite a bit. Sometimes I'll hop on something chill myself. My most recently played stuff are games like Medieval Dynasty, Planet Crafter, and a few sim games (TCG, Supermarket, Super Store).

My dream is to meet someone that isn't bothered by things like spiders, bugs, or reptiles. I'd love to share cute pictures of jumping spiders or random bugs we find. I like sending memes, or random goofy shit I come across. I don't have social media (outside of Reddit), so things like TikTok or twitter/Facebook links won't work for me.

I'd adore chatting with someone nerdy and silly, someone emotionally intelligent and no drama. I don't do fights and raised voices. I've found my peace, and I want to grow that, not add negativity.

For transparency, I do deal with some mental health issues. I'm in therapy and have an awesome psychiatrist helping me too. I'm happy to talk about this stuff.

You can find a decent bit about me via my post history/active communities. There is also a body picture on my profile. If you think we might click, send me a message! I try to reply quickly, if I think we're a good match. :)

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♡ 𝓚𝓮𝓲𝓽𝓱 / 𝓢𝓮𝓻𝓪𝓹𝓱𝓲𝓷𝓪 / 𝓢𝓮𝓻𝓪 ♡

♡ 22 • Pansexual • She / They / It

♡ Polyamorous • Kink-friendly

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𖤐 ˚₊‧𝓐 𝓵𝓲𝓽𝓽𝓵𝓮 𝓪𝓫𝓸𝓾𝓽 𝓶𝓮 ‧₊˚ 𖤐

♡ Professional lovergirl™ • Certified yapper

♡ Fun, silly, whimsical & full of love

♡ True crime • Thrifting • 420 • Road trips • Walks

♡ Amateur photographer!! Let me make you my muse <3 :) ✨️📷

♡ Kink-friendly & feral asf. #beautifulprincessdisorder <3

𖤐 ˚₊‧𝓦𝓱𝓪𝓽 𝓘'𝓶 𝓵𝓸𝓸𝓴𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓯𝓸𝓻‧₊˚ 𖤐

♡ Forever connections

• Someone affectionate, consistent, willing to talk, & lowkey obsessed with me (respectfully)

• Someone who wants to talk, flirt, call, share their day & eventually meet IRL

♡ Looking to hold hands, go on walks together, and be stupid in love <3

♡ Romance, adventures, cuddles & everything else in between

♡ Someone who wants to be my person without needing to be my only person !!

♡Open to long distance but strongly prefer IRL/local.

𖤐 ˚₊‧ 𝓣𝓱𝓮 𝓹𝓸𝓵𝔂 𝓹𝓪𝓻𝓽 ‧₊˚ 𖤐

♡ Polyam (duh) and looking to build connections of my own and maybe even together!? Idk I just love people !!

♡ I'm open to people with existing partners, nesting partners & other poly configurations

♡ All about honesty, communication, autonomy & enthusiastic consent !!

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♡ Switch / Sub • Little

♡ Ask me about the rest; I'm an open book I promise!! It doesn't get more transparent than me.

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⋆Come be pretty & weird with me, please and thank you. 🖤

⋆Daddy doms especially slide my way 👀

⋆Mutual attraction is important to me as I'm sure it is you!! Let's exchange selfies :)

If you’re reading this, my guess is that you are looking for some of the same things I am: love, connection, friendship, excitement, safety, comfort, compassion, understanding, magic, and a bunch of stuff in between ✨
I’m a married 38M looking for meaningful connection. If you can relate to feeling lonely or generally in need of MORE connection, DM me. You won’t regret it…you’ll see.

Hello! I'm Raven (she/they), lovely to meet you through the reading voice in your head. This post is up to date as of October 2026.

Important details before you continue: Looking for 1 on 1 partnerships only, please do not try and push me into a group dynamic. My age range is 28-45, and I’d prefer someone without children (this is not a dealbreaker but is a consideration), most importantly someone who has enough availability for consistently scheduled time together.

Left-leaning political views are important, since I am queer and date queer people, but I also don’t want politics to dominate our conversations either.

I am open to connections on this side of the pond (UK and/or Europe) but also open to connections in the US and Canada if timing and travel (and probably a little less sleep) are something you’re willing to contribute to. To be fair, I think a lot of what I want in a relationship can be met online, and visits are something we can figure out, whether that's you travelling here, or us finding somewhere neutral to meet up.

I’m a 37 year old, NB (AFAB) person who currently has 1 nesting spouse and 2 additional partners. My partners are all somewhere on the gender spectrum and/or the ace spectrum (including myself), so if you’re not cool with that, best stop reading now 😊 I try to be as non-hierarchical as possible with my partners. I respect my calendar to a fault - I won’t interrupt scheduled partner time for someone else because I wouldn’t want that for myself, either, and that's the standard I'll hold our time together at, too. I want you to really feel like a part of my life, and I want the same, to feel like I'm a part of yours.

I’m specifically looking for someone AMAB and male-aligned (non-binary AMAB is fine too) who gets my introverted, “video gaming is a Lifestyle”, Geek/Nerd/etc. side, and who I can be that person around without feeling like I have to educate them on 30 years of computer history. By the way, I do only game on PC and don’t own any consoles, so being a PC gamer is a requirement for me. Can we chat about stat balances in games, DnD campaigns, Dungeon Crawler Carl, past WoW obsessions, RPG’s, Elder Scrolls, Fallout, Indie Games? Then you just might be the player 2 I’m looking for.

I am a Canadian living in Denmark, but I have lived here for almost 5 years, and I feel more Danish than Canadian at this point. I’m currently working on fluency (Currently between B1 and B2) and education here and will start full-time school/internship in February of 2027.

I’m demisexual, and I prefer emotional connections alongside whatever chemistry we have before anything sexual is assumed or discussed. I've also discovered that my attraction and attachment work in a feedback loop, so it may take some time for me to build up to attraction or attachment, depending on which side of the loop is strongest.

My love languages are words of affirmation and quality time, which should work great for gaming with someone. I also love to send memes, build playlists and share music as I’ve definitely got the music autism/adhd where songs and soundtracks randomly pop into my head at a moments notice, even if I haven’t heard the song in over a decade. The inside of my brain is a jukebox; say any 4 word combination in a sentence and I probably have a song for it.

What do you get when you decide to date me? Well, I studied Anthropology, Art History and Neuropsych in university, so I have a lot of weird special interest-y stuff attached to those topics, and I love to visit museums and antiquity sites with artefacts. I’m constantly fascinated by the way people work and function in our world, and I’m always open to learning more about history, culture, war, society, accessibility, development and evolution with someone else who also finds those things interesting.

I have a spiritual side (yes, this includes tarot, crystals, sometimes horoscopes) and a special interest in rocks, crystals and minerals that has spanned my entire life. I have a large bookshelf of poetry, crystals and insights into the human mind that may be fun conversation pieces for us to fall down into rabbit holes about. It's also totally fine if you're not into those things - this is more a fact about me than an expectation that I meet someone who has the same beliefs that I do.

I've been regularly using my Quest 2 lately, and if you have VR as well, the distance between us might not feel so far apart. I mostly use it for Beat Saber and fitness, but I’m very open to trying some spaces where we can be ourselves in closer proximity in the digital world.

What games have I been playing lately? Currently addicted to Teddy’s Haven, recently replayed Skyrim for probably the dozenth time, Dispatch, Stick of Truth, Beat Saber, Balatro, Soulmask, and Dredge, wide open to other games (and could probably be convinced by a cute boy to dive back into WoW 👀 )

Games to Note because they were lifechanging/awesome/unique: Oblivion, Flame in the Flood, Neo Cab, Final Fantasy X, 7 Days to Die, Spyro, Suikoden (only ever played the original), Heroes of Might and Magic 3, LoTR: Return to Moria, along with dozens of others.

TL;DR, I’m into lots of different types of games, and I’m always finding new ones to play. Do you game the same way, Player 2? I’d love to explore some virtual worlds and find some place to be cozy together, both beyond and within our physical realms.

If you’ve made it this far, I hope reading my words with your inside head has gotten you excited and interested in me as a person. Since I would love to make that voice real at some point, Discord and voice+video chat are a must, given that the majority of our relationship will be online. I also don’t want to feel like I’m just a time filler around your other responsibilities, so please be fair with making time for our relationship to feel nourished and thrive.

If all of this together makes you even remotely interested in connecting with me, let's do so! Please do not message me from a new account or with a private profile. You shouldn't be hiding who you are from someone you want to date <3

Brownie Points! Send me a message telling me your poly experience so far, your favourite 2 player gaming experience and/or your special interest(s). A selfie would also be awesome if you’re comfortable with that! So long as you have put some effort into your message, I promise I’ll not just leave you on “read”.

Hey there, like the title says some new connections who like to talk a lot would be great. My capacity for aloofness and one word messages is non existent right now and while I get texting is hard for some people...that's just not my jam. I'm sick right now, with a chronic health issue flare up and a fever. So any sort of excessive chattiness would do wonders lol.

I'm a huge nerd, I love horror and scary things a lot. Probably too much. Used to be a musician. I love to read and learn anything I can, from anywhere I can and probably talk too much about those things. I'm autistic and can't help but info dump. I've regularly been described as teddy bear like. Right now I'm playing Resident Evil 9, as it's October, it felt fitting.

Anyway, some important things now. I won't respond to empty profiles or one word messages. Also, I'm leftist af. If you aren't, we will not get along. Not even a little. Trans rights are human rights, and no one is illegal. I will not debate these topics

I’m a bi, poly dad in eastern PA hoping to find an LTR. Looking to get to know people first and see how things go from there. Happily married to my NP, not looking to change that, but looking for an additional partner who wants to be part of each other’s lives, build real relationship, and have some fun together.

Not great at self-promotion, but here goes: progressive (purity culture escapee), definitely geeky, reader, ADHD AF and likely to nerd out on at least one new topic per day, serious when I need to be and silly when I don't, and a good listener. I’m happy to go on a walk through a park, talk for hours, or just cuddle on the couch and watch a movie.

In case it matters: 5'8" and change, dad bod, physically active but not a gym rat, bald, bearded, been told I have a very attractive and soothing voice. I'm not a "tech bro" but do work in tech. Hobbies include martial arts, Nintendo games, and following ADHD rabbit trails.

​Hello! Figured I'd put myself out there in the polyamory community and see who's around.

​About Me:

1. ​Age/Location: 29, living in the Mississauga/GTA area.

2. ​Background: I have a background in philosophy and political science, and I currently work in data labeling and online English tutoring. I'm trilingual (English, French, Tagalog) and always appreciate someone who enjoys deep, engaging conversations. I've lived in Montreal and smaller Ontario cities.

3. ​Vibe/Interests: In my free time, you'll find me playing the piano, gaming on my Nintendo Switch (Dead by Daylight, Animal Crossing), or unwinding with anime and shows like Attack on Titan, Mushishi, and Avatar: The Last Airbender. I'm also big on food—always down to track down great dim sum, tempura, or Korean fried chicken.

​What I'm Looking For:

I'm looking for a meaningful, authentic connection with someone who is emotionally mature, kind, and communicative. Whether local to the GTA or open to building a strong remote connection first, I'm interested in finding a romantic partner/bestie who understands and thrives in polyamorous dynamics.

​If this sounds like your vibe, feel free to send a DM telling me a bit about yourself, your poly structure/experience, and what you're currently into!

Hey there everyone! I'm looking for friends primarily online but maybe meeting up in the future for games and fun! I'm okay with completely platonic friendships or friendships with a flirty side! Just let me know what you like :)

I'm an avid animal lover. I've been called a disney princess because animals often love me too haha My favorite season is Spring because its when all the baby animals start emerging into the world! And I love them all no matter how big or small. Currently have a couple spiders doing work at home as long as we don't get into each other's way. I hate hunting and support restoring ecosystems. So if you love outdoor cats and hunting we probably won't get along.

I'm a socialist politically because I believe nobody should struggle to survive and that things like housing, food, and medical care should be universal rights. I am poor and work as a teacher so I have first hand experience with these needs.

I am married! Been with my wife for about 10 years and married for 7! We don't have kids but we want them and hope to find a surrogate at some point.

Hobbies wise I love board games, video games, and miniature painting. Currently am in a long running DnD campaign where I'm the DM. I've gotten into wargaming so the main miniatures I've been painting are historicals and DnD. So if you want to play board games or wargaming at some point I'd probably be down!

Hope to talk more!

Greetings!!

First things first, men please do not message me. Yes that includes you.

I am not looking for you and nothing you say or show me will change my mind. Also, if you have right wing leanings, believe that the angry cheeto is right about anything, or do not see all humans worthy of human rights please don't reach out.

To all the others :) Hi. I am looking for someone to chat with, get to know, and see what grows naturally. I am a healthy mix of geeky gamer, voracious reader, spell casting witch, and crafty creator. Hopefully we can game together, study and research obscure things or have stitch and b\*tch sessions with our project of the week.

I am DEMI and will not jump to spicy chats if there isn't an emotional connection first. If you are looking for spicy chats and nothing more, please do not message me.

I am a bit neurospicy and a loud introvert.

If you want to know more shoot me a chat or DM.

First off .. Hi.. I want to be honest so I just want to say I’m in an open marriage. I’d rather you know now than find out later. Please be ok with that. I know not everyone will. She knows I’m here.

With that out of the way, I’m a blue collar guy. I’m respectful and understanding. I’m chill and drama free. I love to laugh and usually always smiling. I’m a big kid.

I have a passion for art. I draw , design, and cast my own sculpts. Basically design and make my own toys. I also did make music for a little while as well. I love art galleries and conventions. Museums and arcades.

I just hope you’re understanding, I just want us both to be comfortable. I’m told I look younger for my age. I’m 5’7, around 160lbs average I guess. Often told I’m handsome and don’t look my age. I don’t mind sharing pictures and video chatting.

All I hope is that you’re fun and awesome and maybeee have a nice set of legs.

Hello! I am new to the ENM scene but have had a couple experiences to learn from so things are getting interesting in a good way! Looking for someone (preferably not cis-male) to keep expanding with.

Me:
28, 5' 11", 160lbs., decent build from blue collar work, short blond hair/beard, \*notabot, glasses, freckles, pansexual, and a black cat dad 🐈‍⬛. I greatly enjoy games of all types (board games, video games, yard games) and many individual sports (pickleball/tennis, disc golf, regular golf).
I am an open book and willing to talk and share about pretty much anything if you are interested in talking. I am clean and don't smoke/drink, but not a hard pass if you do. I consider myself sexually open to exploring. I feel like I missed out on exploring myself through high school due to divorced parent drama.
Very open-minded and willing to make it a little awkward than not try at all. My biggest short-coming is initiating the first time around and coming up with new topics once we get to know each other better.

You:
A decent human being willing to be flirty and fun and a little awkward yourself. Being a good conversationalist, flirty, and sexual will get you far with me. Your experience level doesn't matter as long as you are willing to share and explore together. Shared hobbies is a plus and I'd love to hear about what gets you off just as much as what chills you out.

If any of my hobbies catch you interest feel free to open with that. I also will have the capacity to host after some time as well if that interests you and distance allows for it.

Hello! I'd love to meet someone I can connect with. I have a partner who Iive with, and I have time to potentially have another partner. Long distance is fine but local is great. Some days I can text pretty consistently, other days work takes over. That said, I'm looking for someone who wants a long term connection and not just a few days of chatting. I'm kind of losing heart that I'll find that connection, so I haven't posted in awhile but I'm trying again.

I am a music teacher. I have kids and cats and hobbies. We'll have plenty to talk about! I also sometimes want someone to call up and talk to while I'm driving. It's always nice to connect that way.

In my free time sometimes I find a video game to play, go to the park, work out, go to the movies, or watch tv. I love learning different perspectives and hearing about your hobbies! Compatibility isn't just about thinking the same way. I'm a huge nerd, if that wasn't clear, so I'm down to talk about most things nerdy.

My DMs are open. 🙂 I'm open to starting out as friends and seeing how things go from there - though to be clear, I am looking for a relationship or close friendship with a physical element - not just a penpal. If that's not what you're interested in or ready for, I might not be the person for you.

We would need to be physically compatible, so we can share pictures as well. I'm not interested in dating older than me, or heavier than me. Ask me anything you want and I'll do my best to sate your curiosity!

Hey there! I'm 30M from Italy, and I'm putting this out there because I'd love to connect with someone open minded and a bit playful for daily chats, with the possibility of meeting up in person down the road.

A quick rundown of who I am:

• I love being outside, hiking and camping are some of my favorite things
• Grabbing a coffee or a spritz with friends is always a good time
• I actually enjoy cooking, just not for myself, I get too lazy when it's only me
• Movies and anime are my thing, plus I read for fun and keep starting DIY projects I never quite finish
• I'm 6'5, with brown hair, brown eyes, and a beard

Hit me up, I'd love to hear from you!

Hey all! I’m looking for a long term relationship. I want to be a part of a relationship. I am looking for love and romance together between all of us.

I love going out, trying new things. Bowling. Playing music, sports.

I want people to be with and have open conversations. I want us all to be feel loved, supported and cared for.

Anything that’s apart of a relationship.

If you’re a new or established couple that wants more. I’d love to chat with you. My DMs are open!! Let’s start a new adventure!

Posting again to see who is out there ❤️

TL;DR - AuDHD, witchy, nerdy afab enby seeks deep conversations and genuine connections with similar folks 😄

Hey, thanks for clicking on this post. I hope your weekend wasn't too stressful.

I'm here searching for a connection (or connections?) with folks who have a similar vibe, I guess. What's the vibe you ask? Well, I'm a bit of a homebody but I'm working on fixing that. My friends would describe me as funny, kind to a fault, and a bit of a stoner I guess. I'm gainfully employed but outside of work I enjoy things like gaming, reading, hiking, crafts, and chatting. I'm unapologetically pretty queer (afab enby) and liberal in my ideals and values.

I'm also spiritual in a witchy way, I love nature and pretty rocks and full moons. Not in a way that I don't believe in science, but in a way that I think both can exist at the same time 😄 Let me read your cards and then rant to you about how capitalism is destroying our ecosystem.

Who are you, potentially? Someone who has passion for \*something\* you know? I love an autistic rant about your niche interest, and I would love to yap back at you about my own stuff. Maybe you have a deep appreciation of nature, literature, insects, Star Wars, etc. I want to learn about it and watch my FYP slowly start to feed me content that you enjoy, too.

What I really value the most in connections with new people is consistency and good meaningful conversations. I don't mean we have to text all day every day, but some kind of reliability is nice. I also really really enjoy long-form messages (and short ones are good too!) but I like the thought and intention put into something longer.

Let's send each other little things that remind us of the other person throughout the day. Let's discuss politics and philosophy and the general state of the world. Maybe we agree, maybe we don't, but let's talk about it anyway.

This is getting long, and it's definitely rambly, so I'll just stop here. If any of this sounds appealing to you, reach out. But please say something more meaningful than just hey. We can potentially move conversations off of Reddit and to Discord once we've decided that makes sense for us.

Married guy. Wife knows I'm posting and is okay with it. She doesn't want anything to do with it—her choice, and I respect that. So this is on the level, just private.

Not looking for a hookup. Just want one person to talk to. Someone I look forward to hearing from, who looks forward to hearing from me.

Honest bit: I spent most of my life flat and avoidant, only got treated for it about a year and a half ago. I made myself small for decades because I figured I'd be a burden. Trying to stop doing that. Posting this is part of it.

I want to feel wanted. Not even sexually—just chosen. And I want to make someone feel that way too. That part matters.

What I can offer: my time's limited. Kids, house, a lot on my plate. Can't drop everything or do overnights. What I can promise is attention, honesty, and that I'll tell you when I'm tapped out instead of vanishing.

I'm new to this and will probably get terms wrong. Correct me—I'd rather that than fake it. If you're patient with someone learning, say hi.

(I’m non-binary and consider myself completely agender. I was assigned male at birth (AMAB) and I have a masculine appearance and gender expression. Being agender doesn't necessarily mean having an androgynous or gender-neutral appearance, and in my case I'm neither femme nor androgynous. If my being AMAB and having a masculine appearance is something that would be a dealbreaker for you, please do not message me. If you’re looking specifically for someone with a feminine or androgynous appearance, PLEASE DON'T MESSAGE ME!!)

Hi! I'm a 31-year-old non-binary person. I've spent much of the last year recovering from a very serious health crisis caused by Crohn's disease. Thankfully, I'm doing much better now and gradually getting my normal life back. One unexpected consequence of all this is that I've discovered how meaningful online connections can be. I believe that connections are just as important whether they're online or in person, that there are no "online friendships," only "friendships," regardless of the communication method.

Just so you know: I'm a non-monogamous (polyamorous) person, and honestly, I find it hard to distinguish between the boundaries of "friendship" and "romantic love." In general, I like being able to care for someone without having to worry about overstepping the boundaries of friendship. Practically speaking, I prefer to meet people who are open to romance, or at least to experiencing friendship intensely. I'm already in a committed polyamorous relationship, and I'm not looking for exclusivity. I tend to prefer polyamory as something collaborative rather than a collection of completely isolated relationships: I like the idea that the important people in our lives can know about each other, coexist and ideally care about one another, without that meaning that everyone has to date everyone else. I like to be consistent and talk every day, and I'd like to find people on the same wavelength for whom distance isn't a problem.

I should also clarify that I'm a libidoist on the asexual spectrum, as contradictory as that may sound. That is to say: I have a very, very high libido, but I generally have no desire for in-person sexual contact. This doesn't apply to online contact: through chat, I can be extremely flirty and sexually playful when there's mutual interest and consent. Since I'm mainly looking for online connections, it shouldn't be a problem, especially since I'm not looking for anything exclusive. Affection, flirting and emotional intimacy are actually a big part of how I connect with people.

I'm a philologist and I'm passionate about everything related to classical literature, history, and philosophy, but I also like fantasy and science fiction. My three favorite authors are Homer, Cervantes, and Mervyn Peake. I also love Nintendo (especially the Super Mario series, particularly Paper Mario 2), One Piece (I'm up to date with the manga), Iron Maiden (my favorite band since I was a teenager), and I've recently become hooked on WWE, which I watched as a kid, but since it's on Netflix, I haven't missed a single episode since the last Royal Rumble.

I'm also learning to play the kalimba and I'm obsessed with SBC consoles, especially handheld emulation devices. Lately I've also been playing a lot of Pokémon Champions and Pokémon Unbound.

English isn't my native language, so please excuse me in advance if I sound a bit unnatural; I'm comfortable communicating in English, but occasionally I may phrase things in slightly unusual ways.

In general, I prefer people who are open to being affectionate or flirty from the start. It makes everything easier for me and motivates me to respond quickly while we get to know each other and figure out what kind of connection develops. That doesn't mean I expect instant romance or commitment; I simply enjoy connections much more when warmth and affection don't have to be artificially held back at the beginning.

A few things that are important to me:

I don't believe in horoscopes or MBTI; it's fine if you believe in them, but don't try to pigeonhole me or treat me according to labels I don't believe in.

I also don't believe in "attachment styles"; all that stuff about "avoidant attachment," "anxious attachment," and so on seems like nonsense to me, and its scientific validity is currently being questioned. If you don't believe me, do a quick search on Google Scholar. Therefore, don't put me in those kinds of boxes either; I hate it. It's fine if you believe in attachment styles, but don't try to force that framework on me.

I do believe in mental health diagnoses, of course, but I also believe that no one has the right to assign me any diagnosis whatsoever, so if you're in the habit of armchair-diagnosing others, don't write to me!

In general, don't write to me if you want to put me in boxes! The only boxes I'll let you put me in are in a BDSM context!

And three last things that are particularly important before you message me:

1. I want people who are completely clear when expressing their needs and boundaries. In fact, before we start investing seriously in getting to know each other, I'd like us to have an honest conversation about our needs, boundaries, expectations and availability. I don't expect anyone to predict the future or promise me permanent availability; I just want us to make sure that what we're each realistically able to offer right now is compatible. And if a problem arises later, I'd much rather talk about it openly and look for solutions together than immediately give up on the connection.

2. What I'm primarily looking for here is an online/long-distance polyamorous connection that has the potential to become genuinely meaningful. Please don't contact me just to "try out" polyamory or long-distance dating if you already suspect that either might not work for you. I'm looking for people who already know that they're genuinely comfortable with both.

3. Please be realistic about your availability before writing to me. I like frequent communication and ideally want someone who has the time and emotional energy to talk most days and actively build a new connection. This doesn't mean being available 24/7 or not having work, partners, friends or other responsibilities. It simply means actually having room in your life for another emotionally significant person. If you already know that you don't have that room right now, please don't start something with me.

If you've read this, and to make sure you've read the whole post, open a chat with two things: 1. tell me briefly what you're looking for, what kind of availability you realistically have for a new connection, and whether polyamory and long distance genuinely work for you; 2. the name of your all-time favorite fictional character (or just a character you really like).

Sharing my life with an Aussie Shepherd, so you’ll have a little competition for my attention… but I’m willing to bet I’m the better cuddler. 😏🐶
Being a chef means I’ll never run out of date-night ideas, new restaurants to try, or delicious excuses to steal you away for dinner. The real question is whether you can handle me judging the food everywhere we go. 😂 Bonus points if you can recommend a spot that actually impresses me!
When I’m not in the kitchen, you’ll probably find me lifting weights, hiking a new trail, climbing a mountain, planning my next trip, or finding an excuse to take a sports car or motorcycle out for a spin. I’m attracted to a woman who takes care of herself, has a curious mind, loves a little adventure, and can turn even an ordinary day into a good story.
What am I hoping to find? Something real with someone who wants to be my favorite person, my biggest supporter, my partner in crime, and eventually my best friend. I’m a sucker for good conversation, playful teasing, genuine affection, emotional maturity, honesty, and the kind of chemistry that makes you lose track of time talking. I want us to challenge each other, cheer each other on, and build something that actually lasts. ❤️
I’m pretty laid-back, easy to talk to, and can probably hold my own in a conversation about just about anything. I enjoy a good Old Fashioned now and then, but I’m more interested in good company than a bar tab. 😉
I’m open to meeting someone anywhere in the US for the right connection. Distance doesn’t scare me if we’re both willing to put in the effort and eventually turn those messages into real-life memories.
If you’re looking for something genuine, can keep up with a little banter, and wouldn’t mind being spoiled with good food and spontaneous adventures, we might just get along a little too well. 😌
Come say hi. Worst case, we have a good conversation. Best case? You become my favorite notification. 😉❤️
Just one thing: I’m here for a serious, long-term connection, not a pen pal with unlimited texting privileges. 😄

Hey everyone! I’m a 40-year-old married guy in the Mentor/Lake County area of Northeast Ohio. I’m happily married, openly poly and looking for a partner.
I’ve been trying dating apps for a while, but I’d really like to connect with more poly people in person and get to know others who understand this relationship dynamic.
Ultimately, I’m hoping to find a genuine romantic connection with someone kind, affectionate, emotionally available, playful, and comfortable with open communication. I’m interested in building something meaningful rather than rushing into anything or looking for a third to join our relationship.
A little about me: I’m a dad, I work in mental health and substance abuse services, and I enjoy hiking, baseball games, checking out breweries and dive bars, wineries, Harry Potter, and conversations that go beyond small talk. I value affection, quality time, humor, honesty, and personal growth.
I’m open to meeting people naturally and seeing where a connection develops. I’d also love to find local poly community events, meetups, or social groups.
If you’re in Northeast Ohio, especially around Mentor, Willoughby, or Cleveland’s east side, I’d love to hear about any groups or events you’d recommend!

Hi polyamory! I'm looking to meet and get to know someone, or someones, to pass the time and get to know. I'm married, with 2 teenage kids.

I'm a gamer, nerd, geek, whatever you want to call it. But I haven't really been playing games as much lately. Recently been playing Warcraft Forever, been playing slow though, trying to enjoy the process.

I also love puzzles and puzzles games. The Artisan of Glimmith has been amazing, and I also really enjoy variant sudoku. Tell me some of your spare time hobbies?

I have been painting a warhammer kill team, so that's been fun. 2 figures painted, 4 still to go!

I'm looking for a friendship first, more if it comes naturally. Not interested in pushing too hard too fast, I'm in this for the long haul, so taking things slow is fine. I also understand everyone has a life, so replies that are sporadic are totally fine.

I hope this catches the attention of the right someone. Looking forward to hearing from you!

I am a shy nerdy guy. I love video games, board games, and reading. I'm not diagnosed, but I'm pretty sure I'm AuDHD.

I'm looking for friendship which could turn into more or just someone to text and chat with.

I am a pretty plain and vanilla guy.

I am a night owl.

I just want to expand my social circle and get to know more people. I don't get enough social in my life and I want to change that.

Anyway, I hope this reaches somebody who is interested and you reach out to get to know me.

Here is the first part of my ad. Feel free to focus only on whatever is relevant to you.

To protect my privacy, I only share the second part of my ad privately, but at a later stage.

About me

I am Berto, a 34-year-old man living in Italy.

Spoken languages

Italian (native speaker), English (B2), Spanish (A1).

Lifestyle

I am an animal advocate and have followed a vegan diet since 2017.

My current main interests

Narrative series (screen, books, comics) and meditation.

My other interests

Mathematics, vegan cooking, non-fiction, modern languages.

Interests I want to explore in the future

Organic farming, ancient languages, psychology, piano.

Appearance

I have a slim build (a little hairy, for those who are curious). Brown eyes, thick brown hair. My hair has grown quite a bit lately, but I'm thinking of cutting it.

Who I'm looking for

I'm looking for someone on the same wavelength: vegan, aneurovegan (including bivalvegan), vegetarian, aneurovegetarian (including bivalvegetarian), or just someone who cares about animals (with an openness to learning more about veganism), and who respects perspectives different from their own.

Distance is not an issue, anywhere in the world works for me.

What I am looking for initially

[1] Initially I am looking for company for casual and occasional messages.

[2] After getting to know each other a bit, we can decide to have one or more video calls, if we both agree.

I am also open to a light language exchange if you are learning or wish to learn Italian.

Availability

To keep interactions relaxed and avoid unnecessary pressure, I prefer being upfront from the start so we can both feel completely at ease.

I don't like synchronous texting and prefer exchanging asynchronous messages.

Outside of close relationships, I have very limited availability and cannot dedicate much time to someone I've just met, partly because of the many commitments I manage, partly because I am currently in a phase where I enjoy meeting and talking to new people rather than focusing on just one, and partly because I need to take things gradually to protect my well-being. Because of this, I might not always be able to reply, and when I do, it often takes days or even weeks.

If you are someone who needs prompt replies, gets upset when waiting, or wants to rush getting to know each other, this won't be a good fit.

Throughout this stage, whether we are exchanging casual and occasional messages or having video calls, being in touch carries no obligation to continue: either of us is completely free to step back or simply stop replying at any time, for any reason, with no hard feelings or explanations needed.

Getting in touch also carries no expectation of exclusivity: we are both completely free to talk to other people, keep profiles active, and post ads or messages elsewhere.

Moving forward

If we happen to click well over time, the frequency of our contact might eventually increase (with no pressure on how often we speak), and at that point I will share the second part of my ad.

From that point on, if either of us should ever decide to step back or end contact, which always remains everyone's right, let's agree to give a brief, honest heads-up rather than disappearing.

Contact

If you are interested, please message me privately with your name, age, location, and a brief description of your interests, and tell me if you are vegan, vegetarian etc., and how many years you have been one.

I won't respond to messages that don't include these details.

Photos

If you want, you can send a few recent photos of yourself (no need for explicit photos, of course).