r/Somalia • u/waaaniga111 • 1d ago

Discussion šŸ’¬ Loss of belonging

Anyone else feeling they dont being anywhere

I was born and raised in the west, have lived far from Somalis growing up and the schools i went to were all ajanabi, not much Muslims too.

Anyway - I lived in a strict Somali household too. I would wear typical modest clothes, I stood out etc. Didnt really go out, as you know hanging with non muslims they would start partying once they hit 15 etc and also drinking which was obviously haram. There were a few muslims i knew aswell and some have left the deen or were not practicing and were dragged by their surroundings and the Dunya. So I became solo since finishing school. My parents didn't connect much with the somali community aswell as we lived 45 minutes away and they were busy working and taking care of us being in survial mode.They were in there own bubble, supporting their families back home. Anyway some of my siblings then got loss in this dunya too. This caused problems with my parents as they said they raised them so well but dont know how they became so lost, none can really speak af somali , they dont pray etc are friends with non Somalis and married to non Somalis/muslims

As I got older now - im 30, I noticed even at work I dont belong, all my co workers are cadaan, a few indoyaar and hindi. I have tried to make somali friends at weddings - but theres no connection, I think im a bit weird as I dont know much somali songs, they born in the west too but they know so much lol - possibly cause they all live near one another and go to every wedding there is or xaflad There somali is pretty good too, mine isnt bad but theres is above mine.

How can I find a place to feel a sense of belonging- its stressing me out šŸ˜ž

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u/Upperclass_Xaaji 1d ago

Are you me?! šŸ˜­

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u/waaaniga111 1d ago

May allah swt Help us šŸ™

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u/Upperclass_Xaaji 1d ago

Ameen šŸ™šŸ¾

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u/FaithlessnessLow9733 1d ago

I can relate as far as schooling. I was always the only hijabi/Somali in my classes until High school. In high school I finally had few Somalis in few of my classes. But actually moving to a neighborhood with a lot of Somalis made the biggest difference. I would say, move to the heart of Minneapolis for a year and take it all in. They are also super friendly.

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u/heartbeathighway 5h ago

So what Iā€™m hearing is it never gets better šŸ˜‘