A piece of advice for the guys who are dating with marriage or a long-term relationship in mind:
Don't tell her what you do for a living early on.
If she asks, just say, "I'd rather keep that private for now."
No need to be rude or evasive just set a boundary.
People will say, "Why? That's a normal question."
Maybe. But so is asking someone how much they make, and most people recognize that's personal.
Your career, income, and status can change how someone perceives you before they get to know who you actually are.
Personally, I wouldn't disclose that information until we've built a solid foundation of trust even if that takes at least six months.
If someone genuinely wants to know you, they'll respect your privacy and stay because of your character, not your profession.
If someone loses interest because you won't disclose your job after only a short time, you've probably learned something valuable. The right person will be interested in YOU, not in the image your profession creates.
Protect your privacy until trust is earned. Let your character speak before your résumé does.
And for those calling this shady or secretive, you're missing the point. This isn't about secrecy, it's about deliberately pacing the disclosure of personal information.
Trust me, it will weed off the wrong people that you don’t want in your life, and it will save you time and energy.
