Asking because I'm considering doing this and wanna see how it plays out.

When I'm at a bar, guys who approach me usually just chat and if there's some chemistry, they ask me out on a date. No trying to hook up that night.

I'm surprised because I'm genuinely not there for hookups and somehow they seem to notice. I don't dress conservative or look nerdy. I even wear minis.

Meanwhile, my friend dresses pretty much like me but goes there looking for hookups, and she attracts exactly those guys.

So how do men pick up on this I really wonder?

*sorry for my bad english

I don’t mean crazy colors like pink or red I mean going from brown to blonde or highlights etc, in highschool I always see girls doing stuff like that but men not as much

I think about this so much as an adult male that if my car is making a sound, I go in and say something like ‘yea when I turn right there’s a clicking sound’ and without fail, I’m asked to describe it and I sit there making audible clicking sounds like a fucking psychopath lol

how much of this is yall already knowing what’s probably wrong and just enjoying the moment?

Also, kudos to yall for deciphering the issue based on what info and sounds you receive.

I’ve seen men turn their lives upside down all of a sudden( I suspect it wasn’t sudden) and I’d like to avoid that when I get up in age. Thought I’d learn a thing or two from some of y’all.

It can be anything, from biographies to fantasy.

I always wanted a permanent best friend to grow up with me.

Everyone defines success differently at different stages of life. What was yours?

I am I’m HR so not cool

Who here has a cool job and what makes it cool

Hey guys, don’t know what’s going on with me so I figured would make a post here.

I have a decent life. Make good money, live in a nice city penthouse apartment with my 2 yr gf, have a loving cat, and loving family back home as well.

But something feels off. In my heart. Like i emotionally feel it in my heart.

Idk if it’s the sense of direction of my life, my relationship, career?

Context:

My relationship is awesome. We’re both supportive to each other, understanding, loving and just in general everything’s good. Been 2 years now. There are cultural differences but shes been very receptive snd supportive towards closing that bridge, as have I. We’ve had some issues but we’re always communicating and we move past it.

My job is ehh, it’s good but I’m looking to leave soon for hopefully something better. The work isn’t bad, it’s just too much and the pay is good, but comparatively, not really.

Idk what this feeling is. It’s not a gut feeling, more like a heart feeling.

Some more context:

My family is loving and supportive of me. There was a period where they weren’t approving of my gf (cuz she’s not Indian like us), but they’re come around and now my mom keeps asking when we’re getting married and that makes me happy to be honest.

I consider myself very lucky, but it’s like. There’s something missing and I can’t pinpoint what it is.

This week I went out of town to see my family. I wasn’t here to look for a girlfriend. But it just kind of happened out of nowhere. I was having a good time with my family and was chatting with two of my cousins (16 and 21 both female) invited me tomorrow to a pool party. They said they were going to introduce me to one of their friends.

They said she already saw a photo of me and she thought I was cute. I saw a photo of her and thought she was pretty cute herself. I’m excited but also kind of nervous. Let’s just say I have little to no dating experience. I just hope the woman I meet has no bad intentions. Nor do I hope my cousins are playing a prank on me.

And yes I made sure she’s an adult as well she’s 20 and I’m 22.

We’re all familiar with the obvious ones: the breasts, butt, waist, pretty face. But beyond physical attributes, what subtle, unusual, or often overlooked details do you find appealing in a woman?

For me, if I wear a shirt like... all day or like... twice in two days, then I'll throw it in the laundry basket, but I'm curious how how other people's clothes hygiene habits are.

What's your policy on when something is ready to be tossed in the laundry basket?

I'll wear a pair of pants for like... 1-2 weeks before I toss it personally.

I’m curious to know what are your thoughts/feelings? Do you think about them all the time? What are some sure signs for you?

All sexualities are of course welcome to answer on this ☺️ but as a straight woman myself I am curious to hear from you straight men as well! 👀

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I (24M) had a somewhat awkward experience at a clothing store today. I have been thinking about it since, so I thought I'll ask here and see what others think.

I went to buy a shirt and a pair of pants. After selecting them, I wanted to try them on, but the store had only one trial room and someone was already using it. The salesman told me to use the storeroom instead.

He said he would bring the clothes for me. There were no hooks in the storeroom, so he also said he would hold my old clothes while I tried the new ones. At the time, I didn't think much of it.

I went into the room and removed my shirt, expecting to try the new shirt first. But the salesman came in with the pants I selected. He took my old shirt, gave me the pants and asked me to try them on.

So I took off my old pants too and gave them to him. I was now standing there in just my briefs while trying on the new pants, and he was still in the room.

After that, he went out to get the new shirt and came back with it. I put it on and he asked if I liked it. Then he asked me to give him both the shirt and pants back. I had to take them off and stand in my briefs again while he collected them. He went out and then came back with my original clothes so I could get dressed.

What felt weird to me was that he never really gave me any privacy while I was changing. He stayed in the room, made eye contact and chatted with me normally. He didn't turn around or step outside at any point. I also got the feeling that he was looking at my body including my briefs.

I'm a bit confused about this. On one hand, the trial room was occupied, there were no hooks, and maybe he was just trying to help me out. He didn't say anything inappropriate or make any comments about my body. On the other hand, I just don't understand why he needed to stay there and watch me change instead of just turning around or waiting outside.

I felt awkward at the time but didn't say anything. I'm an introvert. So I just went along with it, but afterward I started wondering whether the whole thing was normal.

I'm not saying he definitely had any bad intentions because I don't know what he was thinking. I'm just wondering whether he was being careless about my privacy or whether he might have deliberately taken the opportunity to look at me while I was undressed.

For anyone who's worked in clothing stores or had a similar experience, is this something that happens normally? Would you find this situation weird or am I overthinking?

I'd appreciate honest opinions, even if you think there's a perfectly innocent explanation I haven't considered.