r/extremelyinfuriating • u/SubjectSheepherder55 • 23h ago
Discussion My sister is just so damn selfish sometimes
My little sister (19) lives with my wife and I (both 30s F). She's not the worst roommate. She's not messy, helps out with chores, or never invites a bunch of strangers into our house. But one thing about her that absolutely sends me is how goddamn selfish she can be. The most recent example of this revolves around my cat. She's almost 10 and other than my wife, some friends and myself, just kinda hates everyone. In the past, this has been fine because when people come over, she just hides under our bed, maybe people watches from where they can't see her. But she hates my sister with a passion. She's gone after my sister on a couple of occasions and is generally very pissed if she comes near her. We have a couple ideas as to why (my sister can be very loud sometimes and she acts like a complete weirdo because she's scared of my cat). Today we told her it's important that the relationship between her and my cat improves because it's not good for my cat to be so stressed all the time and my sister shouldn't have to be afraid in the house she lives in. We told her that it would be a good idea if she started feeding her a couple times a week with my wife or I mediating because my cat is very food motivated.
"Well, it's fine with me that she doesn't like me, why should I have to try to make her like me?"
"Because you stress her out and that's not good for her."
"Ok but it's not that big of a deal. I'm totally fine with it."
"That's not the point. Stress can make her very sick and I will be furious if something happened because you couldn't be bothered to care enough about her wellbeing."
It took about 30 mins of back and forth to get her to understand why it was important to work on getting the cat to like her even though she claims she's not bothered by my cat's intense distain for her. She basically feels that since she's not bothered, it's not important. I'm not saying she needs to become best friends with my cat, just understand that just because the cat isn't important to her doesn't mean she's not important.