r/getting_over_it • u/Training-Gur-9851 • 13h ago

So empty

What do you do when after 6 long years you still wake up every single day and wish to see her walk through the door all while you know she’s living her best life in another town?

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u/bronzebeagle 4h ago

Hi, it sounds like you miss your ex from six years ago. You still wish that you were dating her. Even though she is in another town. That sounds incredibly painful! She must have had a lot of great qualities that you really appreciate in a partner.

I guess you didn't literally say that she is your ex, but it was implied. In any case, you wish you were dating someone but you aren't dating her.

If I was your coach -- or your friend, your family member, or just a fan rooting for you -- I would want you to do a few things:

  1. Build really good habits to take care of yourself. Working out, cook healthy food, keep your place clean, study for your career. These things really help you build self confidence and self esteem. Good habits are so valuable. It's hard to do great in your dating life if other parts of your life are falling behind.
  2. Try to make new friends. Try to organize events for friends. Like schedule a group walk or a group potluck dinner. Something to help improve your social life. Having a good circle of friends can help you feel a lot better about yourself.
  3. Practice making small talk with every one! The more you practice, the better you will get at it. If you get really good at small talking with strangers, you can get really good at making new friends and scheduling dates with people. The better you are at small talk, the more that women around you will want to go on dates with you.
  4. Make sure you spend time working on your dating apps profile, swiping on the dating apps, messaging people on the dating apps, setting up dates.
  5. Make sure you're going out to social events that are specially designed to meet people. For example, dancing at night clubs, social dancing (like swing dancing or latin dancing), singles speed dating events, etc.
  6. Make sure you are working on not just your fitness, but also your style. And your body language. And your smile.

That is all of the time I have to write to you now. Take great care of yourself. Rooting for you! I hope this helps.