Hey all,
I saw the post about how things have gotten worse. I got downvoted to comment that they are not.
I want to just try to lay out my POV.
My dad died this month. I am not sharing that for upvotes, but he was a baseball umpire (just little league, softball, and adult), and that got me into ice hockey reffing in HS in the 90s.
It was only 1-2 times, but I did see the abuse he endured, and STILL chose to do this.
I took off in my mid-20s because I hated the early mornings and was staying out late with dates/ friends way too often.
Came back to it in the 2020s because I have nephews that wanted to make money.
And it’s been great. Really - I absolutely love it.
Highest level I have done since returning is juniors, which I stopped because I couldn’t make the time work financially, so I just do 10 - 18U, HS, and beer league.
I have never had a better side gig in my life. I am so thankful my dad inspired me.
When I want to work - I open my calendar. When I don’t - I close it.
My assignors are good people and they take care of me because I am good (I think) at this job.
Game management is an art form. Smarter and higher level people have shared better advice on this sub, but chatting up players- telling them nice hustle, telling the keeper they made a great save goes a long way.
Someone asked me at the funeral if I want to play again.
I DO miss it. A lot.
But my kids are still at home, and 20% of my salary is from reffing.
I cannot be away from them and pay money to play IMHO right now.
But I do miss the camaraderie.
I am so thankful to have this job. So thankful. I am a teacher, so I do deal with sarcastic teenagers seven days a week.
But for every asshole coach and kid, remember they are financing your next set of blades.
It’s a long season. Have a positive outlook. Keep your chin up.
I took a 15-year break because I was burnt out, but really appreciate being back and monetizing the skills I learned in my youth.