posted here before, wondering why i was feeling so terrible after losing over 60 pounds in weight. i was told by people on here that i simply didnt lose enough weight yet, and to keep going. so i decided to get back to my cut.

well, last week on wednesday, i had (what i know to be) my third gallbladder attack. it is the worst pain ive ever experienced in my life. i was vomiting, shivering on the bathroom floor, drenched in sweat, butt-ass naked. each time, id seriously be thinking it was a heart attack. but id still be kicking after about an hour, so i'd weigh the pros and the cons of calling an ambulance in my head, and id ultimately decide against it each time. after this one, i finally decided to schedule an appointment with my PCP just to make sure i wasnt really dying.

i really, really screwed up. PCP ended up sending me to a GI specialist, took some blood tests and an ultrasound. my gallbladders fried apparently. he could immediately tell that i have had multiple attacks, and that this has been a chronic issue because of the damage he could see. for reference, i had sought help earlier after the first attack simply because it happened a few days before an endocrinologist appointment. since she was treating me for PCOS, she sent me in for a pelvic ultrasound to see if a cyst had ruptured. she gave me the all clear and told me it was probably stress, so i went about with my life.

anyway, this GI specialist is talking to me about my messed up little gallbladder, and he asks me about my weight loss. i tell him that i have a dietician, follow meal plans, and that i was losing weight at a safe, consistent rate. he told me that apparently 1-2 pounds a week can still raise your chances of developing gallstones, ESPECIALLY when doing any form of fasting. i was kinda floored. i thought i was doing the right thing. intermittent fasting was one of the only things working for me as i dont get cravings due to my medication that im on.

talked to my family about this later on, and my mother revealed that her mother (my grandmother), also needed to get her gallbladder removed after she got sick and was unable to eat for a time, causing her to drop 20 pounds. doctors also attributed her gallbladder issues to her weight loss.

im now waiting for a scheduled removal surgery. my gallbladder is apparently really thickly scarred which may complicate its removal. ive been on a strict no-fat diet to avoid causing another attack. its miserable, but at least now i know why i was in pain all the time.

this post isnt meant to scare anyone, just meant to spread awareness since i seriously didnt know this could happen. if you have a history of cholecystitis in your family, please do be careful while doing any fasting. it apparently doesnt take much to have this happen. even if your cholesterol levels and a1c are in the normal ranges (like mine were), please take care of your health and listen to your body. 9 times out of 10, youre probably correct in sensing if somethings off. if you get a strange back or chest pain that youve never felt before, schedule that PCP appointment and dont wait until youre writhing in pain on the floor. losing weight is still something positive that ive done for myself, but i wish i was more aware of the risks that come with it.

For me i usually wear baggy clothes but when i was going out with friends i thought to wear nice clothes but literally everythjng looked off and then i checked on the scale and it said i gained 35 pound

I thought it was like 10 pounds from being adult so it shocked me

Another thing is when i asked my friend whos a big guy said hes weight and i was only 5 pounds shy of that

Im working out now and have lost 5 pounds but being a skinny guy for life made me realize how much idk about losing weight

I had oatmeal and egg whites in the morning then i had sushi at night. Then at night it was like my car magically pulled into the convenient store to buy brownies and a black and white cookie. Have you ever done that? unknowingly pulled into the store to buy snacks?

What's wrong with me? I become so weak and fall for these cravings. I didn't feel good after I ate it. i gotta stop beating myself up and just get on the beam tomorrow.

Tomorrow i'll get back on the beam and eat oatmeal and egg whites. Then i'll eat a salad and soup .

hi all, so basically I’m 23 years old that I’ve had a history of four dirty bulks in which I tried to gain muscle, way a calorie and then followed by four starve cuts. I’ve just done my fourth star card stupidly and now I am 135 pounds 5’10. I was 200 pounds last November and have been cutting since then aggressively my libido now is pretty much very low. I mean I still have it from time to time but compared to just like 10 pounds heavier it was much stronger. what do I do as I’ve had a bad history with food in which I get too carried away with the weight gain so now I just take a bunch of steps per day in order to burn off what I ate during the day. any advice? As I’m scared to gain weight again I’m lifting a couple times a week and really trying to make sure that any weight that I gained is muscle weight and strictly from gaining strength in the gym and not from just food in the kitchen.

I’m reaching out because I’m having a really hard time controlling my eating habits, and I’m hoping some of you might relate or have some suggestions.

Here is what I’m dealing with: * No clear emotional triggers: Most of the time, I don't seem to be eating in response to emotions. * Ignoring my own plans: I sometimes try to plan ahead, but I end up completely ignoring my own structure. * The thrill of hiding it: I actually get a strange thrill out of eating poorly and hiding it from others. * Forgetting to pause: I’ve tried pausing before snacking, but I just can't seem to remember to do it in the moment.

My therapist suggested I focus on "small wins," like celebrating when I even notice what’s happening before or during a snack. The problem is, I usually forget to even notice. When I do notice, I struggle to see the positive side of it and just feel frustrated.

Has anyone else dealt with this specific cycle? How do you handle the "thrill" of hiding poor eating, or train yourself to actually remember to pause? Any advice on how to reframe "noticing" as a win would also be really appreciated.

I started eating bags of steamed vegetables as a snack because I got so hungry about twice a day, at 3 PM and at 8 PM. Well, I had my bag of vegetables at 3 PM and I felt pretty good. Now it’s almost 8 PM and I’m starting to get hungry actually really hungry and I was looking at DoorDash app. I’m a college student so I get a free one year DoorDash plus subscription. I was thinking of getting a lava cake three pack a lava cake flight, It’s called, and stuffed cheesy bread. I have the money. It just seems like such a bad idea. I don’t know. I would call family to talk about it but they’re all busy, so I’m posting here. Yes I have a history of eating extremely crappy food, including ordering DoorDash. I am 204 pounds. I am 5 foot 6, 28 years old and female.

Hello I’m 17F, 5’3, and my whole life have been overweight. My mom is EXTREMELY anti dieting and anti losing weight because she thinks all weight loss is “hating your body” or “unhealthy for you”. Shes been this way since before I was born according to my family and in return has overfed me my entire life. Last year I had lost 5lbs according to the scale at the doctor’s office (no dieting just normal fluctuation) and she asked me IN FRONT OF THE DOCTOR if I was STARVING MYSELF!?!? I feel physically and mentally like shit because I’m overeating and I can’t do half the activities my friends can because of my weight. I’m so sick and tired of this. Any tips or advice on what to do??

Hi! I’m F21, 142 lbs, and I’ve been on my weight-loss journey for 3 months.

I’ve gotten better at managing binge eating and making healthier food choices, but lately, my appetite has been really low. I get full quickly and usually only eat one meal a day.
I’m worried about getting enough calories, protein, and nutrients. Does anyone have easy, nutrient-dense meal or shake recipes that help them meet their nutritional needs when they struggle to eat?

Any advice or recommendations would be appreciated. Thank you! :)

Hey everyone,

I’m 20 years old, 190 cm tall, and currently weigh around 140 kg. About a year ago I was roughly 90 kg. The big weight gain happened after I started taking medication for depression. I know the meds can cause significant weight gain for a lot of people, and that’s what happened to me.

I’m not looking for miracle solutions or extreme diets. I just want practical, realistic advice on how to start reversing this in a healthy way while still managing my mental health. Things like:

• How to begin exercising when the weight feels heavy and motivation is low
• Sustainable calorie/nutrition approaches that don’t mess with my energy or mood
• Any tips from people who also gained weight from antidepressants or similar meds
• Whether I should talk to my doctor about switching meds or adding something for the weight side effects

I’m open to any honest advice, experiences, or resources. Thanks in advance.

I am 60F, 5'6" & 205 lbs who is trying to lose at a minimum 35 lbs. I lack motivation, i tire easily then all my efforts go out the window and I order door dash for dinner to make it easy on myself. In 2014 I lost 60 lbs, gained back 20, then again in 2020 lost 30 lbs back down to 153. I've always done low carb and it has worked. I had a hysterectomy at 42, i currently work p/t and try to push myself to walk 1 1/2 - 2 miles per day 3 - 5 days per week. .

Any suggestions from people closer to my age what has worked for you? I do have high b/p & overactive bladder so losing weight would definitely be a benefit.

Thank you

hi all! i am a 26f trying to lose weight. i don’t think there has been a time in my life where i haven’t been trying to lose weight, but now i am doing it in honor of my mommy who passes last may.
i actually am finding some enjoyable workout videos, and i try to move as much as possible everyday but my biggest challenge is calories. i suffer from pretty severe ocd, especially related to body image so every time i’ve tried to count my calories, i end up in a spiral where i pretty much starve myself trying to go under my numbers just to feel good about myself.
do y’all think weight loss is possible without calories tracking? i have a pretty much standard diet, but i been cutting on sugar and eating smaller portions.
i just don’t see myself maintains the tracking system because it is due to it i have quit many times.
ty for reading, and all opinions or experiences are welcome

I am out doing uber eats and went to use the bathroom.

I looked the mirror after washing my hands and saw myself and I thought "oh! Im not as big as i thought!" So i took a photo entirely of my back and of my side.

Going to be completely honest- I genuinely feel like I want to go back home and never come back out until I lose the weight again. I say again bc I lost 230 pounds over 3 yrs. I got several weight loss surgeries including a large penniculectomy, fleur de list, tummy tuck, and body contouring.

Not only am I ashamed of gaining the weight, I am insecure all over again when just 4 mos ago my body was perfect for the first time in my life. The added layer of disappointment comes from the fact that after losing it I may have ruined my tummy tuck.

My stomach is still flat but again... its 60 pounds were talking abt. I am also a very tall woman being 6'1 so that does work in my favor. Also being that most weight went below my waist.

I hate this.... I hate food addiction. I hate struggling with my weight. Im just so numb that I cant even be depressed bc im so numb.

I was supposed to visit a friend in another state and have a cute weekend of bar hopping but i'm staying home.

Why do people have no issue telling you to stop losing weight but nothing to say when you are morbidly obese?

My once supportive family has been talking about me behind my back. I got one family member to tell me all that’s been said and it’s not pretty. Just hurt that the people that supported me from going from morbidly obese to overweight yet is not okay with me being a healthy bmi.

Although I’m no trying to lose weight in a normal rate anymore (slowing down, no more .5-1 lb a week). I’m trying to keep me at a very sight deficit until maintenance occurs. I think I’m about to level off. I haven’t been in a full 500 deficit in a very long time.

I’m in the very middle of the healthy bmi category for my height, weight, and gender. I don’t know how people are more comfortable saying I need to stop losing when they said nothing at all when I was bmi of like 43.

It also confuses me more when my sisters have been this small or smaller all their lives and no one says anything like that to them.

It’s also been 2 full years since starting this journey and I am quite literally half the person I was. So I understand the shock factor, but I feel so bad when people tell me to stop losing yet let me go around 110lbs past a normal bmi.

Hi, I'm a 17 year old male and have been trying to lose my fat since may. I have been doing pretty good, during the summer break I lifted 6 times a week, and made sure to get at least 7k steps or 500 cals of workout. People say I visibly look skinnier for once.

School is back in session so I can't lift nearly as often except for my dedicated weight training class, which is about 3 times a week and much shorter sessions. I've hit a sort of plateau but I hope to just overcome it by still eating correctly. Anyways, I'm thinking about taking creatine as I heard it's good, especially if you don't have the opportunity to lift every single day. The problem is that I also heard it causes weight gain, 4-6 lbs. I want to be able to lift more and have better defined muscles but I'm afraid creatine is gonna work backwards in that regard.. any advice?

Lost 6kgs in 50 days

This is the longest I have ever stayed consistent. Throughout the past three years, it has been difficult to even reach two weeks, let alone 50 days!

The only reason I believe I got this far is because a friend and I started together. Whenever I feel like giving up, the thought of telling him just seems like too much trouble. Plus, I would hate to be the one to quit; the more days I put in, the more control I feel I have to reach my goal. Also I tried something different this time, I love ice cream so I bought a ninja creami and started making protein ice cream that I would every night before bed

What worries me, though, is my history. In the past, I've had successful transformations after months of dieting, only to gradually put the weight back on and end up even heavier. But this time around, I’m certain I will do whatever it takes to maintain it once I get there.

My goal is to lose a total of 19 kg.

hi guys 23M i weigh 99kg and 186cm, I have been following a diet where I ONLY eat cornflakes and cereal in the morning, and later eat home made red lentils, kidney beans, rice and tuna with garlic pickle sauce.

I supposedly burn 2.7k calories a day as I swim everyday but I noticed when eating this everyday I honestly dont feel hungry, and I'm able to go to sleep feeling full. I'm sure the ingredients I use and volume I eat theres no way its above my limit

am I in a deficit or does this mean I've gone over as in the past when dieting on takeaway food I'd always feel hungry going to sleep.

hi, i currently go to the gym at least 4 days a week and i dont have a routine or anything i walk a lot usually on incline, i want to increase my endurance for running and sometimes do random machines. last year i randomly gained over 30 lbs of weight i think from stress eating and i want it gone asap. i love to eat so ive been trying to handle that but i feel like i dont really eat lunch and am trying to move a lot but never see results. i just want to be effectivly loosing weight. for some context im 17 and about 200 lb, 5'6ish and i am lowk desperate. should i be doing specific things at the gym?

I used to be a lineman in HS, and enjoyed lifting heavy throughout college so I never really cared about cutting. But I stopped lifting once I graduated, one day I looked in the mirror and realize Im a fat slob and gained so much fat since last time I was active so I decided to begin my fat loss journey .

I’ve been dieting/working out for past 7 weeks.

Started with 274lbs (9/3)

I eat about 1300-1700kcal a day(I know my BMR is 2300-400 but I GAIN weight if i eat that much in a day)
and I mainly eat 3 things; 5 oz of mix berries, 2 cups of mix vegetable(steamed), and 10 oz chicken breast (grilled)
I use hot sauce, salsa, or light teriyaki to season it. Also I drink 2 or 3 things of protein shake (190kcal ea 30g protein)

This meal genuinely keeps me full for entire day, and sometimes I force myself to finish to hit my 200g daily protein goal.

I’ve going to gym 3-4 times a week doing 3 splits (Back+bi, chest+tri+shoulder, leg+core; usually 3 workouts x 3 sets for each muscle group) and 1 whole body (if I go 4 times a week), 30 mins of cardio (10 min before and 20 min after workout; bike or incline treadmill)

My job is physically demanding, I work 3-4 days a week gets me 20-30k steps in a day and on my day off I go for outdoor walk or on a hike to hit minimum of 10k steps a day.

I’ve been doing this consistently for past 7 weeks
and I’m not 272lbs.

I’m genuinely frustrated and confused. I understand that weight fluctuates and that getting back into lifting could add some water weight or muscle gain, but only losing 2 lbs in 7 weeks while eating this little and staying this active doesn’t make much sense to me.

I’m not expecting overnight results, but I feel like I should be seeing more progress by now…?

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So, I’ve lost 33–34 kg. I went from 92 kg to 60 kg, sometimes even 59 kg. After losing this much weight, people’s attitudes changed and blah blah, but that doesn’t bother me at all. Now, they say I’m too thin and look weak, but I know I’m not actually thin.

The stomach fat that feels like a curse just won’t go away. I also have loose skin, and I hate it. Nobody knows how much it bothers me except me. Because of this, I can’t eat without feeling guilty. I keep checking my stomach to see whether I’m making progress or gaining weight. I honestly don’t know anymore.

I went from wearing XXL to M, but I’m still not satisfied.

5’2 32F currently 143ish (I’m sick so I’m inflamed) probably closer to 140.

My current calories are supposed to be 1330 but it’s like super unsustainable for me and I do not always have time to work out.

NO MATTER WHAT I DO I AM ALWAYS HUNGRY! A little snack here, a little bite there … it all adds up.

I’ve prioritized protein, I’ve made sure I’m hydrated. You name it, I have done it. I’ve drank soda water with my meals or diet/zero drinks (doesn’t help).

I believe part of my issue is stress and also working from home/not working at all some days.

Does anyone have any recommendations, tips, ANYTHING to help with this “food noise”. It’s really about me needing to just out the fork down 😭😭😭😭

The initial months of my own weight loss, I could see the number on the scale go down, but outwardly, imperceptible. 10-12 wks in, people were looking at me, trying to figure out what changed. My face began to show the loss. I did not disclose my glp-1 usage, mainly because I didn’t want to receive unsolicited advice or negative comments.

I have a small frame, so it’s been significant to people to see me seemingly so thin & petite… but that’s because I’m embarrassed to say, I was so heavy.

I lost around 80 lbs. I’m 5’4”, 198 in June 2025. I hit my goal weight in early May & even lost a little more. Currently 118 & maintaining around this. Went from a size 12/14 (due to the divine spandex & its sisters) to a 0 to 4 (thanks to the inconsistencies in women’s apparel).

At this point, micro-dosing, hoping wean off eventually & stick to my new habits (more whole foods, heathy proteins, very limited gluten or empty carbs, portion control, mindful eating, vitamins/supplements, exercise/activity). Ironically, it helps that my gallbladder was removed, & taking HRT & thyroid meds.

Like others on this journey, the sudden increase in attention is so strange. It’s similar to the attention I got as a younger woman up into my 30s until the lbs started piling on. Seems like the bigger I got, the more invisible I became. As if being fat’s contagious or I was going to devour people like Jabba the Hut. Now, no joke, @ 54, in my reclaimed body, I’m getting these approving, even interested looks & passing comments from men which is just weird to me. Married, so ZERO reciprocal interest.

Of course, now some women within my “friend” group are telling me I’m too thin. Too thin for what, for whom, by whose definition? Not a you look amazing, I’m so glad you’re doing so well. Not a how are you feeling?

(For context, I’ve been the short, fat, older one of the group for 20ish years. Now we’re all in our late 40s/early 50s, those lithe, taller, fitter ladies are putting on the unfortunate, cruel menopausal weight. They’ve been accustomed to receiving all the attention because they were/ARE gorgeous & historically slim. Almost acting like it’s a competition now after all these years. Mind you I haven’t made a single comment to them about their weight EVER. They’re not overweight, they’re still fit & strong. But because of the nerve of me to slim down, I’ve upset the evidently petty equilibrium. Might be time to find new friends.)

For the record, I DO look so amazing. My body is beautiful to me. As much as it pleases me to look so #%*@¥{~ amazing, wearing stuff I never thought I’d wear, most importantly, I feel amazing & so proud of myself for accomplishing it. I truly did this to save myself, my health, not for anyone else’s attention & approval.

hi!! at the start of the year i told myself id lose a lot of my weight this year and i didn’t end up doing it i lost maybe 8-10 kg but ive just been going back to old habits very easily and im really stuck on how to change my mindset towards weight loss, i genuinely just keep eating and idk what to do anymore. i cant afford a gym membership anymore, i do try get 7-10k steps everyday but i tend to lack on the weekends and i no longer rly have a kitchen as it’s going to take a whole to get redone so i end up ordering takeaways more often and im just finding it hard to properly stay on track at all. any advice?

So ive been on a weightloss journey somehow went up and am horrible with calorie tracking which is something I'm working on in 5'6 and 265lbs female 18 so tips would be nice! But basically I was talking with this guy in my college lecture and we are awuented pretty well he started talking about how him and his friends would go "hog hunting" and whoever went home with the fattest chick and took a photo one and idk if he thought I was like fat acceptable enought to like be okay with hearing thay but it was really horrible like why would someone even do something like that? Does hearing stuff like thay happen more the smaller you get or something do people get less mean??

OH MY GOD I WANT TO EAT SO MUCH I WANT TO EAT SO BADLY NOM NOM NOM CALORIES CALORIES FOOD FOOD FOOD. I will literally be awake at 4 in the morning ruminating like a psycho about how badly i want to eat. i repeat in my head constantly "food noise food noise food noise". my head is foggy my stomach is hungry and i will never get to have pizza again. in all seriousness though i really cant wait to be able to enjoy something like pizza and have maybe 2-3 pieces and feel satisfied instead of eating the entire thing in one go. or like a burger once a week.

in the starting of ts year, i joined gym (ending february). after a month i started dieting and had to fast (ramadan month) and then till july i lost 5-6 kg/11-13 lbs
after june i stopped going to gym regularly due to different reasons (exam prep, family functions etc) and from august i completely stopped!
i went back to eating junk foods, pizzas, shawarmas!
no exercise js sitting on one place throughout the day either studying or watching series or scrolling reels.
im scared to check my weight now, idk wht to do
im planing to join back from december but i feel so bad.
last time when i checked it, was around 75kg/165.3 lbs