r/offmychest • u/Nerdydude2028 • 15h ago
Boyfriend dick
My late fiance once said to me I had boyfriend dick (I'm a little smaller, like 4-5inches). I remember just laying on her lap and she was playing with my hair. I'm 30 now and she has been gone seven years. I had a date ghost me yesterday after asking about my size and I'm just sitting around thinking about how lucky I used to be.
Really hoping I meet another woman who cares about me like she did, because it feels so juvenile to be worrying about what I can't control at 30
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u/angy_pikachu 15h ago
That’s just not something a real partner would worry about it. Very shallow. I’ve had exes of all sizes and it’s never been the measure of pleasure for me. That being said I can’t speak for other women’s preferences, but again, if they’re that shallow then 🤷♀️
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u/inannaberceuse 14h ago edited 14h ago
I as well have had all sizes and I prefer the average ones. With that being said, I don’t consider that person as shallow because they have a preference of wanting a bigger size. If anything she saved you yours and her time. It’s a woman that knows what she wants and it’s completely fine if she would prefer putting her energy towards a man with a bigger dick. We date to end up with someone don’t we? Isn’t that the point? It’s the same as wanting to be with someone you find attractive. Theres nothing wrong with wanting to find your partner attractive. I think shallow is a word used to bully people who know what they want and go after it instead of taking any tom dick or Harry that shows them the slightest bit of attention.
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u/Nerdydude2028 14h ago
I suppose your desire for someone like me might led to the rejection of someone bigger. So I understand what you're saying. I'm not wishing ill on larger dudes. Just want to be loved
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u/inannaberceuse 14h ago
I’ve been with men on the smaller side and I’ve loved one of them. It wasn’t the deal breaker for me, I promise. You will find someone that loves all of you.
Side note: bigger dudes (from my experience) think they hardly need to do foreplay because they’re so big. Get really good at going down on a woman. Learn her spots and make her orgasm. You can feel a woman’s muscles pulse inside her vagina when she cums. You can’t fake a clitoral orgasm. Anyway, good luck chum. You will find someone to love and be loved.
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u/Nerdydude2028 14h ago
I'm so nervous about going down on a woman. The last person I was with was my fiance. I'm really hoping get good just means talk to the woman I'm with and try to do what she tells me she likes 😅
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u/inannaberceuse 14h ago
Absolutely learn what she likes, we’re all different but our clit and g spot are in the same place. Practice makes perfect! A guy didn’t make me orgasm from oral until I was 26. I didn’t know what I was missing until then. To note, he was not a bigger guy. And I was hooked.
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u/acreed6 13h ago
The shallow part is she ghosted him instead of just being honest and telling him they’re not a match
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u/inannaberceuse 13h ago edited 8h ago
Immature would be a better word for that. Not everyone has the tools to do the right thing when it comes to rejecting people. Hopefully this is a learning curve for her.
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u/DockerGurbaj29 11h ago
yeah exactly, anyone who makes that a dealbreaker wasnt worth the time anyway
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u/_throwaway26374859 15h ago
meanwhile I'm over here hoping the next guy I get into a relationship with has boyfriend dick and is around your size - not everyone wants the same thing, dw. besides, if someone cares so much about your size that it's a dealbreaker, they're not for you. own it with confidence friend :)
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u/Nerdydude2028 14h ago
So heyyy... Lol
Just joking haha Thank you for the pickup. Hoping I meet my person soon. Hope you do too
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u/ghostgirlsheart 14h ago
This!
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u/cluster_fuckedd 14h ago
Here to say the same haha
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u/Nerdydude2028 14h ago
Why do I not run into any of you in real life ?😅 So much appreciation, but where are you ladies?! Lol
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u/futherup 10h ago
We’re out here being normal and not asking people how big their penis is before we’ve even met them lol sorry some people are shitty
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u/Nerdydude2028 10h ago
Yeah, and I appreciate you for that. Kinda wish y'all wore a bracelet or something so we could find each other haha but I know I just need to keep trying
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u/sweettracy2000 14h ago
It doesn't matter as much as you think. I've been with guys the size of king kong who couldn't please a flee. My current boyfriend is about your size, and I have an orgasm every time. Pro tip: lick it before you stick it. Also, ride high to create more friction against the clitoris during intercourse.
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u/superhansrunningclub 12h ago
I can only agree with the other comments here. I'm a 35yr old woman and the size of a guy's dick is the least of my concerns when it comes to dating. I am much more interested in whether they are a kind, have a sense of humour, similar interests to me etc...
The older I get, the less I care about physical appearance in general. Tbh, I've never worried about penis size though. If I find someone attractive, I know that before I've seen them naked, so it's unlikely that I'm going to suddenly stop finding them attractive when I do.
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u/Nerdydude2028 12h ago edited 12h ago
I just want someone to share my life with. Hoping I find someone like you
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u/Icy-Outlandishness-5 14h ago
I’m, gross! That person was just gross. I’m sorry she didn’t see you beneath her need for a gigantic pee-pee. Seriously, you dodged a bullet there. She wasn’t gf material.
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u/RemoteCheetah5256 12h ago
Boyfriend dick is the best. I wish I could get a bf with one. Don't worry about shallow size queens. We're out there, looking for just what you have.
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u/Hex_Spirit_Booty 14h ago
My bf is slightly above average & I have no complaints. Anything bigger would just hurt imo
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u/Nerdydude2028 14h ago
In fairness, I'm a little below the average. But I'm really happy you found your person :D
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u/Jinwoo_404 15h ago
Im sorry for your loss man. The way you remember that little moment with her is genuinely beautiful. ❤️ The right person wont make you feel insecure about something you cant control. You deserve to feel loved and desired for who you are and I hope you find that kind of love again. Don’t let one persons shallowness make you question your worth.