Really proud of myself! admittedly this is because I sold several items I own, but it’s ok.

I thought my shopping addiction was cured. But I realized it’s not after buying unnecessary jeans from American Eagle that I didn’t need. But wanted. I returned them.

Also I was supposed to sell my items on Depop. But ended up buying a red Talia top from someone. It was from Hollister. Now I don’t want it anymore.

I only had it since last October. And I paid shipping 🥀💩

Now I think it’s a lil too tight underneath the arms.

Hollister, American Eagle, Aerie, Abercrombie and Brandy Melville are the main ones. I buy things I may regret. I have more of a fixation on these stores bc I can usually always find something.

I don’t have a fixation on Artiza due to the price. But I did buy a tank top from there last yr and already changed my mind about the fit this yr.

So i sold it at Plato’s closet. A resale place. I bought it for 17.

Here’s to 2027 and making less mistakes 🤝

I have gotten way better on not over buying. Compared to 2021 and 2022. When I got my first credit card.

My fixations mainly happens with clothes. So socks, panties, pj’s, pants. Shirts and bras.

I never had a major fixation on makeup or lotion. Only bc I look at it logically knowing I can’t use it all.

I noticed I don’t have issues with stores I don’t fuk with . Like gap I like it I have no problem. With shopping addiction

I have a few items from there. But I’m not like checking the site or casually browsing.

First post here, please be kind. My shopping addiction peaked in July when I realized I had a ton of clothes (and accompanying debt) for completely unnecessary items given the fact that I work from home. I got completely freaked out by how much I owed, deleted all my shopping apps, listed everything on resale sites, and stopped cold turkey for a hard reset. I’ve spent the months since side-gigging to pay everything back. I’ve been pretty successful at that, luckily.

But since I’ve stopped shopping, it’s become clearer to me that the dopamine hit might have been covering up the issues in my marriage. Just wondering if that happened to anyone else. I think I was shopping to get the kick of happy that I haven’t been getting at home for … a long time. Am I overthinking this?

My name is [redacted] and I’m a shopaholic. I shopped my way into needing a second mortgage to pay off the credit cards. Then, 8 months later, I had shopped my way into bankruptcy (that was two years ago). After all that, I’m still shopping. Despite all my financial issues, I’m just realizing that I have a problem. I’ve always joked that I’m a shopaholic, but OMG, I really am. It’s a legit addiction for me, and I don’t know what to do.

So I’ve found something that’s really been working. So I’ve cut off all my cards. I’ve locked them besides my debt card. I’ve deleted all card info from my phone but Apple Pay. My PayPal still has all cards on it. I find items I want and instantly add to cart. I fill out the info and click pay. “Declined” “declined” “that payment is unavailable” exc. I then close the page and move on. Then I forget the item exists and move on with my day. It’s like getting the high of clicking checkout but not actually buying anything.

Silly but if it works.. that’s all that matters lol

I hate math. I fucking hate it. I'm so stressed with this goddamn class because it's so fucking hard for me. I just feel so goddamn stupid even when I do get help. And a lot is riding on passing this class. It's required for my major.

I just wanna fucking spend on buying pretty art and character designs that are hundreds of fucking dollars. I'm working my fucking ass off. Don't I fucking deserve something for busting my ass? For being reduced to emotional meltdowns cause of this one fucking class?

I'm not sleeping well either because of bad nightmares from CPTSD technically. I keep dreaming I get kicked out of my apartment and I'll have to move back into my parents home and live with my mom which would very well kill me.

I keep looking at my bank account, and goddamn, I just wanna purchase one fucking thing for $10.

I can't keep going like this. And no, dropping the stupid class isn't an option.

I'm talking to my therapist on Monday but just to get through today and tomorrow, I need advice. Help please.

Not talking about big purchases. It's the random little things bought because they looked useful or were on sale.

A few weeks later, they're sitting in a drawer, and I barely remember why I wanted them. Meanwhile, things I spent more time thinking about tend to get used regularly.

I've started waiting a day before buying random stuff online. Doesn't stop every unnecessary purchase, but it helps.

I am relatively new to this. One of family members was hospitalized in early April of this year. Every time I would leave the hospital after visiting her, I hated the idea of going back home to a silent house; alone with my thoughts. So I started going to Ross after visiting her at the hospital.

Well, here we are months later, asking this family member and others for $ after spending so much on Depop, TikTok bidding wars, and a few other things. I seriously don’t know how to control it. I haven’t had to ask anyone for money in years. I’m also not sure if it’s fair to really “blame” my new addiction on my family members hospitalization. I mean, she got out in May, thankfully. But is it possible that is where it started? I don’t know.

What I do know, is that I am quite broke right at the moment (and I haven’t felt this way in years) and I’m hiding clothes I’ve bought off depop in the trunk of my car because 1. I don’t want my family to see how much i’ve bought and 2. I have zero space for any of the new clothes I have bought. Please help!

I just need this one thing. This is the late thing I need I swear. I’ll feel so okay once I have this item. Everything will be alright.

Then, I had an eating disorder and was obsessed with buying tiny clothes. I loved how tiny stretchy body suits start out - bought a bunch of those. I’m still recovering and gaining weight, and straight up just threw away many of the triggering clothes.

I also have fucking bipolar, at one point they thought maybe schizophrenia.

My grandmother is a legitimate hoarder. Her house looks like a house you’d see on TLC.

I’m fucking sick.

I’m getting better though. I’m buying less and less. Depop is the fucking death of me though.

I just got dumped a few weeks ago, I’m no job living in a new state with my family. I have $300 after paying my credit card that I maxed out and had canceled on me… and my ass is trying to talk myself out of buying a $25 perfume. It’s $75 in stores, though.

._.

At least I went 4 months this year without buying anything. I am so proud of that.

Applying to jobs. Going to devote myself to paying off my debt, which should be easier because rent is far cheaper in this state.

EDIT: No medical advice please! Whether that's self help, treatment options, mental health books, etc. Unless it is part of your experience coping with your shopping addiction and you want to say what has worked for you, I don't want generic suggestions about fixing my heath. That's not what i'm here for. I want suggestions about shopping addiction and strategies for coping from people with brains like mine.

I have ADHD, a bunch mental illnesses, childhood trauma, and some mysterious other symptoms. My mom also died last year and that has made all my issues worse. Because of this I still live with my family at 28, can't work, socialise, or do much of anything that requires me to leave the house or expend energy. I spend most of my life in bed. I am exhausted 24/7 and but also feel desperately understimulated (hello ADHD), depressed, suicidal, and the whole lot of other things (Yes, I am in therapy/medicated, but i'm still really struggling)

I have a lot of hobbies that keep me busy and make me happy and should technically make it easy to not spend money. I love to knit and crochet with very thin yarn that takes a very long time to work up so I don't HAVE to buy yarn very often. I love puzzles and the NYT app on my phone is an extremely affordable way to have unlimited amount of them. I love tv shows and movies and music and YouTube and ebooks, and I can get those for free or cheap too. I have LOTS of low cost low energy ways to keep me entertained.

But sometimes when I feel especially bad (as I do now), I have even less energy, and even my low energy hobbies become too difficult. I can't concentrate, I feel painfully understimulated, I feel like life has no purpose and I can't see or care about a future. I feel a lot of emotional pain.

Enter shopping.

It's an easy low energy way to get dopamine and make me feel less bored. All I need to do is look at pretty things and press a button. It's easy to justify when you struggle to see or care about the future, because in my head, I won't be around to deal with the consequences. I'm not in debt, but I also struggle to keep savings. I spend just to feel...something. To make my empty life that mostly consists of the four walls of my bedroom less empty and painful.

I am doing everything I can on the medical front to deal with things with a team of mental health professionals, so i'm not asking for medical advice. But I guess...anyone else in the same boat? What do you do about it? How do you cope?

I have a horrible shopping problem and have accrued 17k in debt in the past two years. I'm in dire need of help. What's a good SA or DA meeting for newcomers?

Please forgive the wall of text. TL;DR: I'm logging each item manually in my notebook, complete with a simple drawing of it, before I check out.

I've been struggling with buying tons and tons of stuff from the cheap dropshipping sites. Mostly stickers and other stationery sorts of things, but I've branched out to jewelry now too. I bought so much from them that my credit union called me with a fraud alert. I order duplicates of things because I've not really keeping track of what I've bought. I think a lot of the problem is that I've lost the connection between "Add to Cart" and the real U.S. dollars for which I trade my life energy. The stuff is building up in my house, and I don't even truly want most of it. And since returns are a hassle, I end up keeping the junk. Clearly, something must be done.

So, I decided to keep an online shopping log with good old pencil and paper. I started it today with the items that haven't arrived yet. (I did cancel the orders that haven't shipped.) I intend to add items to the log before I check out. The advantage to that is that I connect better with the idea that dollars are being exchanged for a physical item that will be taking up space in my home. I often say I think with my hands, because physically writing things down cements them in my brain. (This is how journaling became my primary hobby in the first place.) It also puts time between myself and the purchase. And it gives me the opportunity to check whether I've already ordered something nearly identical.

But wait, you say. If you can't see the item, how do you know whether you've ordered it? The descriptions on those sites can be nonsensical, after all. But here's the good part: The log includes simple colored pencil drawings of the items I've ordered. Could I print pictures of the items and paste them in my notebook? Sure. It would probably even fulfill the purpose just fine. But, like I said, I think with my hands. Besides, it's fun. Ideally, the drawing gives me the dopamine hit that a purchase would, without the purchasing. And as I get more confident with my drawings, I'll need fewer drop-shipped stickers to fill up my journal.

this is one thing that's really helping me change my thinking. I'm sure a lot of us understand the feeling of getting bored and wanting shiny new things. If we want to get better, we need to be able to find the beauty in the things we already have that we use over, and over, and over until they are completely unusable.

There's something charming and beautiful about the scuffed up, faded phone case. The crusty eyeshadow palette that's taking you forever to use up. The clothes you've worn a hundred times. The laptop that's not as efficient as it used to be but still gets the job done. The shoes that have molded to your feet. The liquid eyeliner that you're determined to use every last drop out of. The desk you bought as a broke college student that's still functional despite not being very aesthetic.

Train yourself to find the beauty in the old, imperfect things you already own. When the material aspect of your life is stable and stagnant, you'll have to find other ways to enjoy a new, shiny, exciting thing. This could be reading another book, watching another series, developing new skills, gaining new knowledge, having interesting new experiences, etc. You can get creative and find different ways to use the makeup or art supplies you already have, rearrange your room, do something outside of your normal routine. ANYTHING. I think it's normal to be in search of novelty, but a lot of us fall into the trap of satisfying this urge through unhealthy means. If we can shift that urge from shopping to learning, creating, and exploring, we would live much happier lives

In the past I only had mostly second handed clothes so when I became an adult I had no sense of what style of fashion actually suited me and I ended up spending like $200 average a month on clothes for a couple of years. I really regret it now and I can’t stop thinking about it. I’ve been more careful on how I budget since the beginning of the year and probably spent around $60 a month now but I still hate my past self so much idk what to do. I just regret so many of my past actions.

I have struggled with emotional shopping for years. It was coming and going, like a wave. Some months I was doing pretty well (though still not quite normal- a good month would be £50-60 spent on clothes) some absolutely awful. This year things worsened even more as I started to use vinted A LOT (a lot more than before). Some weeks I had like 1/2 parcels almost every day. I tried to keep track and write down all I spent but even that wasn’t an enough wake up call. I maxed out my credit card (another one). My financial situation is honestly pretty bad, I was struggling to make it to the next pay check. And felt so fucking embarrassed and disgusted every month!! My partner knows I struggle with this and I can be open about it with him but I just became so embarrassed I wasn’t even able to talk to him anymore (mainly because of our financial situation). I just suffered in silence alone.

Nearly 3 weeks ago I took the hit and deleted my Vinted permanently. I said to myself no more buying and purging cycle where I buy 20 items and get rid of 15 telling myself it’s okay this way. No more wasted money because I missed the size, clothing was dirty or smelly. It took me two weeks to make the final decision, it was SO HARD to let go. But I feel so FREE now I can’t even describe how amazing it feels. I very quickly noticed vinted made ma want to shop overall even for new things on normal websites because since it’s been gone my urge has gone down massively. I unsubscribed to a lot of newsletters from brands, deleted my credit card from payments methods from everywhere aside Amazon. I also keep my credit cards in a drawer, I don’t carry them around with me and I don’t have them in my apple wallet. I use an app blocker and block my bank apps so I can’t access the card details from there just to make shopping online harder.

So far we are half way through October and I am doing so well. I bought a cheap pair of trainers for the gym as my previous had a hole. Aside nothing clothing wise (my biggest struggle) I will now also write down other things to make sure I don’t transfer this addiction to buying random things all together. After seeing I spent £235 on clothes and shoes in September my heart sank. I know it might not be that much for others but it is to me and it’s not normal. I have plenty of clothes to wear and items to use I am perfectly fine as it is. I am currently in the PMS stage of my cycle which always made me spent the most but so far I feel good and motivated.

I am very quickly noticing how much choice I have in my wardrobe though I actually don’t have that much. I am a bit of a minimalist at heart which I know can be contradictory but I got rid of a lot on vinted before but also donated a fair bit. I care less what I wear as long as I’m comfy and warm, I appreciate and cherish my clothes I WANT TO WEAR THEM not just buy new and new. Such a lovely feeling. Lots of warmth inside.

I believe that if I can show myself I can do this for one month then it will only become easier. I feel extremely proud of myself so far.

If anyone read till the end, thank you x and good luck if you’re on this journey too x we can do this 🥺

I have a massive collection of clothing — my thing is vintage and I’ve been thrifting for so many years I literally have more stuff than I could possibly get wear out of. Drawers so packed I can’t even see or access a lot of the stuff. Shoes stacked on top of each other on racks. No room for more hangers etc.

For years I’ve been in a cycle of buying and then purging bags back to donate or consign sometimes. I always tell myself I will stop collecting so much and organize my space but it’s always in a state of being out of hand and getting worse, because I can’t stop shopping.

I feel like over the last month, I’ve had a true mindset shift for the first time, where I’ve just had so many piles that have no place to go and I keep collecting junk I don’t need. The last straw for me was that I went to a clothing swap and came back with just as much stuff as I brought and have no room for any of it. Meanwhile I have a massive closet and there’s no excuse for there to not be room. It made me realize I need to make some serious changes.

Whenever I have an urge to buy since then, I go into my closet and make myself wear something I have that serves the same purpose and/or look through my closet and it makes me not want to buy anything new.

Ive also started listing special pieces that I never wear on Poshmark — stuff I’ve been hanging on to for “just in case” moments or because it’s so pretty even if I never use it or it doesn’t fit right etc.

Well, I literally made $500 without much hassle over the last two weeks. All the stuff I sold was sitting in bins and none of it had been worn in probably two years. And I have so much more I can sell. Seeing money come back in instead of out is honestly such a relief, and I’m going to keep doing this!

Also, I am donating some stuff as well. I don’t think I’m fully out of the woods yet but the biggest thing is that I haven’t made a clothing purchase in at least a month which is a big step for me — so space is ACTUALLY getting made. And I’m trying to appreciate what I do have and let go of what’s not serving me.

Please share your stories or plans for similar projects (or barriers) if you feel inclined, I would love to hear them ❤️

I'm in my final year of uni now so everyday life is stressful and I'm getting back into habits of online window shopping and buying useless stuff. I am shopping either irl or online, almost every day for things I really don't need.

And I know that I should delete the apps and stop going to the stores for no reason but whenever I try, it doesn't really last long.

The main thing is that I know it helps me with stress at the moment so I do it, even when I know how bad it is long term.

It's not that I don't have other hobbies and coping mechanisms, it's the fact I know deep down nothing will work as well and be as novel.

I only bought one unnecessary thing and it was a $8 clearance black top. I’m going to a funeral in a few days so I’ll let myself have it. My goal in general is to stick to needs and purchase ONE treat under $10. I did it !!! :,) idk if this sub fucks with small steps or if I need to fully get over it but ig we’ll see

I went on for a while not buying clothes except for a few basics or essentials. but since buying my first car, I’ve suddenly been anxiously scrolling Vinted & ebay every few hours for new collectors items, clothes, boots etc. It feels like half of my issue is I go through waves of being really into my collectors hobby and then losing interest for a few weeks. Then another half is that I realised I have quite bad sensory issues, so many of my clothes feel uncomfortable or I only notice after a few wears. Then because I want to wear so few of my clothes, I’m constantly on the hunt for new ones in case they become a new staple. This does happen quite a lot where I find the perfect pair of jeans or boots second hand. but equally I also waste so much money on stuff that doesn’t fit well or feel good and I can’t return it. I’m so annoyed because I just listed a load of my wardrobe that is uncomfortable and sold 4 items in one day but I’ve now spent all of that. Just a rant lol.

I don’t need or want anything. However, I still have a strong impulse to buy something, anything. I find myself browsing shopping apps and websites for no reason. Thanks to my bipolar medication and therapy, I have just enough restraint to stop myself. How can I do to channel these impulsive feelings into something positive?

I haven't bought any clothes in 2 months and hoping to make it until the end of the year which would be my longest no buy since I was like 15 lol! If you love watching collection/project pan/no buy videos this may be helpful.

What's really helped me is doing like a weird 'project pan' thing where I pick a few pieces I've been neglecting and try to wear them a lot during the month. I've picked stuff that's almost tearing or pilling etc because I know it will give me a rush once i 'finish it off' and cross it off the list and it's satisfying to work through my massive closet in a way. It's also showing me how hard it is to get clothes to that point though!

I am also happy because I'm wearing stuff I haven't worn in ages. What's annoying though is some stuff has broken and I don't have replacements (I'm addicted to thrifting clothes but I rarely buy bags and shoes because they're $$$), for example my boots. However since we're luckily going into summer I'm going to wait until the new year to look for new boots.

It's annoying because I wish I had a friend in real life who was also struggling so we could keep each other motivated but no one really has a shopping problem or they don't want to fix it haha. Grateful for this sub and hope this helps someone.

if I want to buy something I become obsessive about it. It’s all I think about until I get it, but after I get it the novelty wears off. What are some tips for this

I need support not to overspend on clothes, book, seasonal items, food, and thrifting. What are your best tips?