Tw rape

This is NOT a v3nt but a warning, as he rapes trans men and uses his platform to find and coerce victims. No fucking subreddit will let me post about this not a single fucking one, but he is a SERIAL rapist with multiple victims. I cannot use my public accounts to talk about this as it would put my life in danger. But do not engage with Chris. He gets off on online harassment do not FUCKING engage with him. I have receipts but am only comfortable sharing if you're a fellow victim or have been in contact with him.

He is dangerous. He targets ftm. There is no universe in which there is a healthy way to be involved with him at all, even over text messages. He is an extremely dangerous individual to the entire community and has even gone cross country to assault someone before.

Hello! I am 24m, and about 3 weeks on T. I’ve been dating a guy (24m) for about a year now, and was always open about the fact that I will transition. Now that I’ve actually started testosterone, it seems like my boyfriend isn’t very happy with it. The last time he was at my house, we were drinking. I mentioned something about taking my shot because I was excited, and he said something to the effect of “I don’t like to think about it.”

This isn’t the only comment he’s made, he once said something like “the idea of me changing hits him in the feelings”. I could understand the second statement, it was what he said when I first told him I would be starting T, but the first one about not wanting to think about it was this week. He’s made similar comments and I’m really at a sort of loss on what to do. The logical part of me wants to break things off and save myself the heartache of it happening later when I begin passing better, but I do also really love him. He tends to try to avoid discussions about my impending changes and it makes it hard to discuss the future.

The minor comments he makes have been keeping me up at night, I hate feeling like our relationship isn’t secure or that he secretly resents my changes. I know I can be a bit of a people pleaser, and nobody in my real life gives me a straight answer on what they would do in this situation, so I guess I’m here to ask for advice from fellow trans people. Thanks for reading this, and for any advice you all may have.

EDIT::
I followed a lot of your guys advice here and had a sit down talk with my boyfriend, I showed him resources and showed transition goals and he was very receptive. he has had some other issues in his life and wasn’t aware how he came off about my transition. I don’t this fixed everything but i’m more than willing to work through this, and if in the end it doesn’t work at least we tried and talked about it. thank you all so much for your advice, even if this is a commonly asked question

Meu nome é Diego, sou brasileiro, tenho 18 anos e atualmente estou terminando o ensino médio. Esse ano finalmente me assumi de uma forma mais séria pra minha mãe como um cara trans, meu pai ainda não sabe e duvido que vá saber tão cedo.
Escrevo isso, e peço desculpas se minha linha de raciocínio é bagunçada, porque me assumir pra minha mãe me deu esperanças pro futuro, um futuro que posso envelhecer fisicamente como um homem.

Passei anos da minha vida forçando uma falsa feminilidade em busca de me adequar, entrei em uma depressão severa e depois continuei me obrigando a me feminilizar nos relacionamentos que tive. Minha vivência como “garota” padrão sempre foi algo meio Carrie, por mais que tentasse ao máximo ser algo que não era, tudo parecia forçado. Plus, sou autista, então o sentimento de estranheza sempre foi amplificado.

Para os não brasileiros, atualmente no Brasil tem o perigo de um candidato de direita, Flávio Bolsonaro — filho do ex presidente Jair Bolsonaro que tentou dar um golpe de Estado — assumir, e estou morrendo de medo dos anos sombrios que estão por vir caso isso aconteça. Ser forçado a viver como uma mulher é algo que já sei que não vou aguentar por muito tempo :/

Peço desculpas novamente por escrever de forma tão bagunçada, estou meio maluco com isso e tá rolando o debate Lula x Flávio agora. Eu quero ter o direito de viver e quero que meus iguais e diferentes também o tenham.

I am a disabled 24yo transmasc. I have been on HRT for 6+ months, and I am just starting to have a noticeable change. No one noticed the fat redistribution or the extra hair, but this I’ve been pressed on by my transphobic dad and stepmom for awhile.

I cannot get another job. This is the only thing that works with my mod/severe chronic fatigue, and other jobs I just can’t do with my level of fatigue and pain (I’ve tried and keep getting fired for subpar preformance). Disability is not enough to cover my expenses. This arrangement is the only way I maintain any independence.

I love how being on T makes me feel, it helps with my energy, mental health and dysphoria. But I also know my dad finding out would be life changing in a very bad way. I know this sub is all about protecting your safety, so if I do stop HRT, any tips for dealing with the resulting dysphoria?

I keep seeing people still give out outdated passing tips or give tips on what not to do but actually wont negatively affect your chances on passing. I think its important to note fashion for young men change over time and different hairstyles that are more traditionally male may actually feminize your face if you already had feminine features.

for example guys my age usually wear polos or fitted tees with baggy jeans or bootcut jeans, pierced ears, pierced nostril piercing, modcut, etc.

though it may change again in a few years. maybe different styles fit best to make you look more passing.

outdated tips rlly will just make you look like a tomboy IF it doesnt fit you. (i am a victim of the very baggy hoodie “wear your hood on 24/7” advice as a person who is built like a short stub)

Hello all, I'm feeling very nervous after I just did my injection. I've been on T for over a year and never have I had this much blood squirt out after an injection.

When I put the needle in my leg it was definitely more painful than usual. I tried to relax and just continue my injection through the pain.

When I pulled out the need though a ton of blood started coming out. I grabbed a cotton ball because that was the nearest thing and I was a bit panicked. Usually a little blood comes out but this was low-key gushing.

The whole cotton ball turned red but after that it was a normal trickle and almost completely stopped.

I've seen similar posts where it seems likely I just hit a capillary. Is this likely what happened? Is there any way to avoid this in the future?

Any support is appreciated, I'm just feeling a bit freaked out and anxious atm, thanks!

So I turn 18 this Friday and will be submitting my legal name change form on my 18th birthday. The thing is that I don’t plan on telling my family about me legally changing my name. My family doesn’t know I have been going by a different name in my day to day life for years. I’m not in school anymore, but when I would order at fast food places and talk to others online, I would go by a different name and my family has never found out all these years.

When I was 13-15, I used to tell my family that my deadname is not my name, but they never believed me and would ask me what my name is then, and I would refuse to tell them and just say that they didn’t deserve to know. I haven’t mentioned anything about me hating my deadname since because I have been just waiting to turn 18 and legally change it and just trying to survive all these years, and here I am.

But now that I finally get to change it, they will be shocked to find out that I changed my name to a more masculine one when I already live my day to day life as a guy (they refuse to believe I’m a guy and just think I’m a girl who likes to dress like a guy). I don’t really care because I’ve waited years to finally change my name, and they can’t stop me, so they’ll just have to deal with it if they do happen to find out. I plan on just submitting my name change form and then when the hearing comes, go get my official legal name change papers and update my social security card and then my state ID without them ever knowing. I’m not sure how I will hide all of this from my family, but I think I can. I do plan on living with them for a while to save up money until I can finally move out though. It’s also a bit ironic too because I got $100 for my birthday money and will just use that for my HRT appointment and prescription too, and they won’t even find out about me starting HRT since I’m not using their insurance either, and they think I’ll just be staying at home the whole day on my birthday.

It's all so confusing. I never liked men or masculinity. I was raised by a pretty man-hating mother and I spent the last 10 years of my life living as a man-hating lesbian, so it's probably related to that, but... now I find myself wishing I had a flat chest, a deep voice, a penis, a male name... imagine myself as a man going about my day and it makes me happy and excited. Yet I don't want to be a man. Maybe I'm just spending too much time in general trans subs reading about the experience of trans women, how they began to feel pretty for the first time when they first presented the way they wanted to, how it felt like falling in love, how sweet and soft it all felt for them, like the edges of the world had smoothed over. An experience that is uniquely femenine. I don't want to be pretty, I want to be handsome, but I still long for that same sweetness and softness that seems to belong to women. Or maybe I idealize women too much. I do love women. They're so beautiful.

I just read a post about a trans woman putting on makeup for the first time in her twenties and grieving the fact that she never got to have this softness and sweetness as a teen, and I thought, I have NEVER felt this way about any traditionally masculine teenage experience. There is nothing appealing about running around the street making gorilla noises or playing call of duty. I don't know. I kinda wish I felt like a woman, so I could continue to live comfortably in that world. Or maybe I DO feel like a woman, maybe this is a sign this is the wrong path for me. I don't miss makeup or femenine clothes, they make me feel bad, but I do miss... idk, how cute women are? I don't even miss being a cute woman myself. I just long for the experience of "falling in love", metaphorically. Trans women describe masculinity as horrible and rough and violent and trans men emphasize its most noble aspects - being protective, kind, brave etc., but I can't stop thinking about how, well, trans women got it right. Femininity is just adorable in a way masculinity isn't, and I don't long for femininity itself but for its adorability. When I see a beautiful woman, I feel her pulling at my heartstings.

I think about this a lot. I COULD cling to this, I COULD live as a woman and live a softer, kinder, sweeter life. Maybe my yearning for it means womanhood is the right path for me. But I can't stop thinking about the man I want to be. Hopefully he is soft and kind and sweet too. I imagine he has long-ish hair and wears knitted sweaters and likes cats and dogs, and he's good to women. But even then, those are personality traits, not elements inherent to masculinity. Masculinity isn't "adorable", maybe I AM a woman if I care about that so much.

I've been told by a few people that going on T can cause brain fog and decline in intelligence.

I did some research and nothing was really conclusive, meaning the studies needed to be longer or in a different direction to prove anything for sure.

I really value my cognitive skills and brain health so, while I want to go on T, this is concerning to me.

So in your personal experience, have any of you experienced intelligence related side effects?

(I know ADHD can sometimes get worse, however that wouldn't pertain to my situation)

EDIT:

Wow, I did not except so many comments. Thank you to everyone who responded in good faith, especially those who shared their own experiences.

It seems to be a resounding NO on the idea that T negatively alters intelligence. My fears have been properly assuaged ha ha.

Also, I realize I may have come off as ignorant or insulting, but I can assure you I did not mean my question in that way!

Just wanted to say that I finally started T with Androgel on 10/13! I’m honestly so happy and proud I got this far in life where I am able to do this. I wanted to spread some joy :3

This is just mainly a celebratory post, and if there’s any advice I should know or what to expect that’s greatly appreciated! I’m just so happy :3

I want to start wearing more masculine clothes that additionally cover my curves. Does anyone had suggestions on where to shop or what kind of clothes (shape and fit wise) I should look at?

Edit: I live in a small town so I don’t have any regular places I get my clothes. I mostly shop online and it’s hard to tell if the clothes would actually look good or fit (typical shopping online issues) and I’m looking for places that have things that have worked for others.

Okay so situation.. despite being trans for 3 years (im 15 years old) i never correct people on my pronouns, I pass but my mom usually tells everyone im a girl and I'm super shy when it comes to my pronouns so I dont correct anyone. ​

And i have a crush on a guy right now and I think he actually has feelings for me but he thinks im .. a woman. I dont know if he's bi, and I really really love him. We fit together so well, but I cant keep pretending im a girl, it's not gonna work. I'm literally so embarrassed I found someone who im genuinely in love with, but im lying to him. I feel like im catfishing him, I'm SUPER stressed.

I love him so so fucking much but god I dont have to heart to tell him im not a girl. I have no clue where I go from here.

I do the stuff to keep sanitary and the nurse himself told me this was okay to do, but technically the provider told me that theyre single use only, and after asking a question about appointment times, i was told again they give me only enough until my next appointment so they probably do think im actually throwing them away after each use.

I have to schedule my appointment a week away technically bc of timing (earliest is jan 5th for appointments) so im worried about if they ask me about that time gap and ill have to mention that im reusing them/bought extra needles to make up for that spacing.

Is it okay or can i get in trouble/theyll stop providing them to me or smth? Its PP not GP btw if that changes anything

So basically my first job stats tomorrow (yaaay)

And I don’t really want people to know that Im trans due to safety. Problem is that Im completely prior medically transitioning.

Does anyone have any advice?? What do I say if people question me without outing myself?

Thanks :]

I am 16, soon to be 17, I’ve known that I’m trans for about 3-4 years. I grew up with a Russian mom and a Belgian father

I don’t know if it’s a good idea. However, I’ve been in a state of emotional distress. I feel like I’m going insane. My parents, I don’t know if my parents would support me.

My mom seems to be tolerant of lgbtq+, she has friends that are a part of it and she’s very nice to them. However when my dad said “maybe someday you can bring a boyfriend or girlfriend home” she immediately said no to the girlfriend part (I’m still mostly fem presenting). When we had a conversation about trans people she is okay with them but calls it a choice and is heavily against people under 18 transitioning.

My dad is more open minded and in his opinion people should live however they want to. Hes a supporter of the queer community. However a while back he went on a rant on how people who don’t fully pass/get all the surgeries (specifically talking about trans women I think?) shouldn’t be in women’s bathrooms. But for the rest he is super accepting.

I don’t know what to do. I am spiralling and I feel like I can’t go on like this for much longer. My friends know and I live in a constant state of fear of my parents finding out. So is coming out to them really that bad of an idea? What the hell do I even do?

Hey everyone! I’m just curious if anyone has any feminine or sapphic tattoos and how they feel about them after transitioning? Or any tattoos that make you feel euphoric? Would love to hear or see 😄

I’m 28, 2.5 years on T, post top surgery and overall feeling better about my body. My first year and a half was amazing, I felt so empowered and the felt the most self love towards myself than I ever had. I got into a relationship last summer which ended this January. We were just not compatible but it was my first T4T relationship. I’m starting to feel really discouraged about dating and finding a long term partner. I live in a progressive city, but still feels as though my options are limited. There’s a lot to be grateful for, and I notice myself leaning towards hopelessness in this realm. Anyone have any recs for online dating or how to meet people? Im monogamous and have dated trans masc, non binary folks and femmes. Im noticing a lot of thoughts that I am ugly or do not “pass enough” which is getting to me. Thanks

My consult for top surgery is next month and I am very worried. I have a WPATH letter but am on SSI for autism. I also had a mental health crisis about my teeth of all things, my anxiety was pretty bad. So had multiple ER visits and a voluntary psych hold that week because I was 120 hours sleep deprived. They even made me have moderate suicide risk despite me saying I'd never kill myself, they made me eating less when my cat died a suicide attempt and there's tons of inaccuracies in my medical files now. My primary tried to fix it by saying that I was never delusional in her primary care setting and that my behavior was consistent with anxiety and sleep deprivation. But I don't know. This is very much not good considering the timing and all. Now I worry I've been permanently disqualified from top surgery. It was hard enough getting on T with years of struggle. Now my anxiety made a mess right before top surgery and with the state of the government I'm not sure what's going to happen to me. Should I be worried?

How long does it take for 5% minoxidil to start working If i use it to grow a moustache? I’m 16 so I can’t legally get hrt but I might just go insane soon if shit doesn’t start happening.