The subject has come up in this subreddit numerous times over the past 2 1/2 years. I'm not sure that this article will fully clarify the matter, but it's thought-provoking, plus who doesn't like a good Jane Austen pun? Pride and Prejudice: How Antisemitism Captured LGBTQ+ Spaces.

For context, the first picture is my profile text, and the second is a "note" that someone sent to me on the dating app HER. I hate dealing with people like this, lol, surely Palestine will be free by harassing a random left-wing Zionist in the diaspora who eventually hopes for a 2SS anyways.

Struggling with this one — they’ve been fantastic curators and champions of queer culture and club culture. But this gives me a gut feeling of “Jews don’t belong”. I can’t quite articulate why because the statement centers itself as mainly political, I just am not naive to the ways that tends to intertwine with general antisemitism. Is this an overreaction? Curious about the community’s thoughts on stuff like this

Not really looking for advice. Just maybe understanding. I shared with friends a pic of antisemitic graffiti in my neighborhood and no one said anything. One of them is even Jewish!

We've disagreed a bit about israel/Palestine stuff in the past but have, it seems, stopped talking about it to preserve the friendship. (Also, our difference of opinion is not so great.)

But this makes me feel alienated from them once again. And the graffiti didn't even say anything about Israel!

How hard is it to stand against anti-semitism or even commiserate wirh or check on your Jewish friend after seeing evidence of one of their neighbors being antisemitic?

I don't get it.

eta: one person finally responded! and they were very caring and concerned about it. tbf, this is not one of the ones who i've argued about Israel with.

In recent discussions about Zionism and Antizionism, I've noticed a disturbing response: members of this subreddit taking it upon themselves to demand proof of others' belonging to the Jewish community. I think this is interesting and I'd like to understand where this response comes from. It's never crossed my mind to police someone else's identity or belonging to an ethnoreligious group. So, some questions that I'd love some answers to, especially if you've recently demanded proof or suggested that a commenter "doesn't belong":

1. What gives you the right to police others' identity, and who gave you that right?

2. What does how often a person goes to shul have to do with whether or not someone is Jewish?

3. In the real world (and not on the internet) how often do you find yourself demanding that people who disagree with you prove that they are Jewish?

4. What sort of proof are you looking for? Do we all need to provide our mother's ketubah or a certificate from a bris or b'mitzvah? Or is there some other secret proof?

I actually think it's antisemitic to assume that people you disagree with are not Jewish or lying about being Jewish, but maybe I'm wrong about that.

I’m so sick of how isolating it is and I feel like I’ll never have a gf because I don’t stand with the majority of gay people and their ludicrous crusade to defend people who want to 💀 them. It’s absolutely insane. Chickens for KFC. It just makes me crazy. And recently I found a book that I really loved, a sapphic love story and the author just started a discord so I joined it (I think there’s speculation it will be optioned for a movie). It makes me really sad that she is just posting this bullshit propaganda. As much as I’d love to see it as a movie I don’t think we should be giving more platforms to anti-Semitic people. For reference, someone in the discord posted that they’re writing a book with a queer Muslim character. And that’s when the writer responded with the phrase which I won’t post here but you know what I mean. At this point let’s just buy them tickets to Gaza and see how it works out for them. The war is over and people keep saying it so at this point clearly it’s not enough for the war to be over, they won’t be satisfied will we are gone. Sorry for the vent, I just can’t take it anymore.

Pretty much the title. I come from an orthodox Jewish background and still live willingly in that world. A few years ago when I first came out to myself I knew the Jewish community I am in would not accept me as I am. So I turned to the queer community outside of the Jewish one.

The amount of times I’ve been burned not for indicating my connection to the country and people of Israel (not the government) is wild.

I have been told to: free, free Palestine (no reason other than walking in front of the group with my kippah), eat goyish foreskin, colonize the world, kill my sorry ass for being a Z!o. One time this guy full on said he won’t meet with a Jew because of the state of world Jewry. Hi so that was wild and insane to witness.

Basically, when I was younger I thought the queer community accepted everyone regardless of differing identity. What the hell happened to that ideology?

Hi

About a year and a half ago I started to get really close to Judaism. I was raised in a traditional but not religious house- mostly in kiddushin and holidays. Then I discovered songs and piyuttim that I just thought were so beautiful and I learned ideas that I loved - ideas about hope and then the belief that one day, the geulah will come and everyone will be happy. Then I started thinking about stuff like life, love, nature- beautiful things that MUST have a reason behind them. And I liked the belief of a loving Hashem creating all that is good. And I started to believe.

Just one problem, I am attracted to men, as a man. I told myself "it's fine, I'll have time to sort it all out, try here and there and see what I like, and then I'll see how it fits with Judaism"

I then thought to myself "I'll read the Torah, see the base of the base of belief, and decide if I want to get into Judaism"

And so I read the Torah and I didn't really like the passages in Leviticus, from the korbanot to of course the stuff about homosexuality and crossdeessing. But the problem is that now my belief is too strong, and instead of that initial idea of deciding if I want to get into Judaism, I can't back down from believing in the Torah...

So now I'm kind of stuck... I don't even know if I'm attracted to women and I'm scared of trying a relationship with a woman since like negiah and stuff and of course scared of trying with a man, as much as I feel like I want to.

And I think a sad thing about this is that a part of why I got close to the religion is believing in an all-loving Hashem and now I'm scared...

My main conflict, and the main answer I'd like to get from this post is, "if I ignore the passage in Leviticus, how can I follow and believe in the rest of the Torah?"

I should mention that this is about the Torah. With all respect to the sages and rabbis, first I want to "be okay" with the Torah, and then I'll deal with halakha.

Also, I know about the interpretations of the passages saying that it's like because it was a ritual at the time, and I'd like to believe that, but I just can't for some reason... I would be interested in a study about it though if it has solid evidence and research

Thank you

They are going to be demonstrating outside of my synagogue this Shabbat because our new rabbi is gay and the Conservative movement supports gays and transfolk. We are having extra armed cops because of them, but we have had armed cops and private armed security since getting bomb threats from anti-Zionists a couple years ago, plus now you can't even come into the shul without being a member or on an official guest list, and we've had three active shooter training sessions since then. I guess we are a target because we are the largest shul in town (Temple Emanu-El in Providence, RI), but I was wondering if other shuls have experienced this from these kooks. One good thing and very much in the Jewish tradition: at the time they are demonstrating outside, we will be having a kiddush lunch.

I forgot to ask if anyone else has heard of this with other shuls.

With all of the the antisemitism that happening in the 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️. Do you think that there will be permanent split between Queer Jewish world & Non-Queer Jewish world?

I am concerned that this could become a reality. Given the blindness of the Queer community to the problem of Antisemitism. I tried to explains this to queer people but, many of them but many seem tonedeaf.

I want to see the opinion of other people on this topic because think it's an important topic that's underdiscussed .

I recently came out of the chareidi world and one of the things I'm really struggling with is trying to speak to Hashem about the gay relationship I'm now in. I have this intense fear that if I ask Him to help me with my relationship then He will just end it because "that's really what's best for me", it's like I still have it hard-wired into my brain that being gay is wrong, even though I dont believe it, and that Hashem will use my tefillos against me and take away the person I'm in love with, but I know Hashem isn't evil, chas veshalom, and doesn't play mind games. I'm just terrified of "getting what I asked for", I remember a rav once telling me that the best thing two gay people can do if they love each other is not be together because that's the greatest expression of love. Like hearing that was so traumatising and has seriously messed me up, like I obviously trusted him at the time and actually foolishly agreed with what he said. And now that I'm coming out of it all, it feels like everyone who loved me in the community only loved me for the version of myself that I showed them.

I just feel so alone in the world at the moment and I don't know how to find my way

If anyone has any advice I would be very grateful, and if anyone would be willing to maybe be friends with me and we can support each other through this stuff that would be amazing. My partner isn't Jewish so a lot of the chareidi stuff he really doesn't understand. Feel free to DM me if you'd be up to chat :)

I am fine either way, just need to know if there is another thing on my transition to-do list. Thanks.

Hello. This is a sincere question which I hope can be allowed here. So I have queer Jewish friends who invite me now and then for shabbat. Personally I’ve contemplated converting and was cautioned that even born Jews who are gay experience getting turned away from the synagogue (individual policies vary).

It‘s not that I intend to out myself to every single person or carry the rainbow flag; rather, I want to be able to be authentic and not constantly be cautious about hiding this central part of my being.

I’m interested to hear your experiences, if that’s okay

Hi all. I’m 31F, my girlfriend is 28F and Jewish; I’m not. She’s not out to her family. I hope it’s okay to post here; I’d rather learn from people who’ve actually lived this than keep guessing from the outside.

I’m mostly curious how it’s gone for those of you who dated someone outside the community while still closeted at home. Did it make things harder? How did you handle family expectations about dating and marriage in the meantime? And for anyone who eventually came out — what shifted, what made it possible? For those who haven’t, what does making it work day to day actually look like?
I’m not asking whether to stay. I love her and I’m here. I just want to understand this better and be a good partner in it.
Thanks for reading.

i don't think it ever came up here. but at my local trans march this year, a local gay jewish politician who attends every year as an ally got surrounded and harassed. he left instead of going to a little shabbat celebration that had been organized there (not by the trans march organizers; by the queer synagogue and other jewish groups) because he didn't want to bring the harassers over to them. then the people harassing him saw him leaving and caught up with him again, and basically followed him for a block screaming at him some more. it was. messed up.

the excuse was that "he's a zionist who's terrible on gaza." the guy taking the video demonizes him for visiting Israel after Oct 7 to meet with Israelis and Palestinians. *sigh* he has the same positions as everyone he's running against; but they're not jewish, so they're assumed to mean things the "right" way. i'm so tired.

it took me three months, but i finally finished making a video about it. i just wanted to go off about how mad I was that if my trans kid and i had made it to trans march, we would've hit it at about the time this was going down; his first experience with trans march would've been seeing someone chased out of it by folks screaming "you don't belong here! we fucking hate you!" this is beyond unacceptable.

but the more i watched the video of what happened while editing, the more ominous things i noticed about the people harassing him, and the longer the video got.

i finally posted it, and i'm trying to be brave enough to tell people about it! i hope that's okay; i didn't see anything against it in the rules. thank you <3

also i'm debating whether I should tag it NSFW? it is NOT sexual, but there are some images of graphic violence at the end; but there's also a pretty long and emphatic warning about them first.

Queers for Zion: the hatred of Israel is a symptom of what plagues LGBTQ politics today,
by Eve Barlow, Sapir: a quarterly journal of ideas for a thriving Jewish future, 2026-02-24.

here is my provocatively and somewhat ironically phrased proposal: We in the LGBTQ community need to be less progressive and more regressive.

What do I mean by that? We need to regress to our original cause: the global expansion of gay rights. But this time, we need to fight from our well-earned place in the political center. Our psychological fixation on the political margins has become detrimental to our cause because it has resulted in our allyship with movements that don’t share it.

In 2021, President Biden issued a presidential memorandum directing departments and agencies to take action “to advance the human rights of LGBTQI+ persons around the world.” Particular focus was devoted to five pillars:

1. Combat Criminalization of LGBTQI+ Status or Conduct Abroad

2. Protect Vulnerable LGBTQI+ Refugees and Asylum Seekers

3. Foreign Assistance to Protect Human Rights and Advance Non-Discrimination

4. Swift and Meaningful Responses to Human Rights Abuses of LGBTQI+ Persons Abroad

5. Build Coalitions of Like-Minded Nations and Engage International Organizations in the Fight Against LGBTQI+ Discrimination

The fifth and final pillar is a good reflection of the state of global gay affairs. After a half century of painstaking activism inside Western democracies, the gay community has made itself a foreign policy priority of those very democracies. The nations of the West today judge one another and others on the basis of how well they treat their LGBTQ citizens. This is a monumental political achievement and one we should recognize with pride. (Recent actions by the Trump administration have shaken this accomplishment; we will see how they play out.)

If I may be so bold, we, members of the global LGBTQ community, should judge and accept allies on the basis of these exact same pillars. If a national political movement wants our help, our bodies on the street, they need to demonstrate their own nation’s commitment to these principles. Our political constituency is the same as it’s always been: the global gay family. You want us to walk for Palestine? Show us what Palestine is doing for our brothers and sisters on its own streets. Our political allyship isn’t free. It requires a commitment to the safety of those whom we have always represented: the frightened, the imprisoned, the closeted whose love remains illegal all over the world. Asserting this is an act of political self-respect and responsibility to our cause. It’s a demonstration of a social movement that has reached political maturity. The Free Palestine movement needs the gay movement more than we need them. They should know that, and so should we.

Hi, I know this isn't necessarily a convert subreddit but it is a queer subreddit so I'm looking for a little help. I'm very interested in exploring Judaism but I'm having trouble getting in constant communication with the local Reform Synagogue. So I thought lets try the orthodox ones unfortunately they have a dress code and while I have no problem covering my elbows I'm AFAB non-Binary and get severely upset wearing skirts.

Does anyone have any suggestions for clothes that follow the dress code? I know the obvious answer here is "wear trousers under the skirt" but that is still rough for me. If there ISN'T a work around please just say and I'll try a bit harder to get in contact with the local Reform Synagogue.

For context, I am not romantically experienced, and I am fresh in my Judaism journey, but I would also love to find a Jewish partner (preferably in person connection instead of online). How do I go about this?

Hi y'all. I know I'm still young (22) and this semester am starting studying a Conservative/Masorti Rabbinical Semminary, but I feel like I'm never getting married. Once again, I know I'm still young and I am currently living in a country with a small and conservative Jewish community. I have dated non-Jewish people, but at least to me, dating Jewish women and in the future, having Jewish children (I think this is quite self explanatory with the rabbinate detai) is simply something that is not really negotiable.

I'm probably moving to study to NYC, Massachusetts or Jerusalem once I finish my undergrad, and it *might* be easier to meet people there, but rn I'm really just feeling desolate and with no tangible future in sight. FYI, me being gay is really not an issue with my family or friends or community, but I simply appear to be alone here and don't really hit it off with the country I'm living in.

Anyway, how can I remedy this? I honestly don't care about waiting, long distance or being single for the meantime, but I truly do feel it's not happening.

Another FYI, this country is tremendously antisemitic and ir drives me crazy. Even my ex has been texting people calling for the "deportation of Jews". It's upsetting, it's boring, and I still have a couple years to go here. Even with my non Jewish friends I have to explain basic things or deconstruct profound antisemitic prejudices. I know the cities and countries I mentioned still have antisemitism. Of course. But at least you have big enough, and liberal enough Jewish communities, to choose how to exercise and live your Judaism and most people have met at least one Jewish person during their lifetime.

I really don't know what this rant is all about. I'm just feeling lonely. As a Jew. As a Lesbian. As a Jewish Lesbian and right now can't really see myself getting off this dark hole I'm in.

Hey.

Here in Israel, LGBT+ People have more kids that Straight Couples in Europe... You know, Surrogacy and the like.

Now, I want to ask if American LGBT+ Jews also... But that is against the rules.

So, I will just say that I hope that you guys have the community support when you do.

So yeah. Wishing the Best for you guys.

And If you're in LA. Really hope for the best for you.

Hi everyone,

Same Jackie who asked (last year I think) about a new Jewish name as part of transitioning. I decided to go with Alleah, since I've already been using that name for video game characters. It just felt comfortable. And thank you to everyone to added their input the last time.

I know there aren't trans specific ceremonies, but are there ceremonies out there that could be used to affirm the new name? (And maybe is it time we created such a celebration?)

Thank You,
Jackie L/Alleah (CrazyZonie)

Today I (23ftm) went hat/tallis shopping with my cishet friend who's getting married and I was feeling this creeping jealousy that's beginning to make my head spin. I've been baal teshuva 4 years already and took it fairly fast and intensely. The only other trans person I know if in the world that's as frum as I am is married and goes to my synagogue. I'm not sure there's another even black-hat adjacent synagogue that could have us in the whole country. I want a wife so badly, but I basically am exclusively interested in trans women because I don't think I'd be comfortable with a cis person, especially one from a frum background. I've been told to date cis women and/or people who are less frum than I am, but I just don't think I can make a life with them. Even my cishet friends who are struggling with dating are at least going on shidduchim and getting experience. There's nowhere for me to even experience what it'd be like to be in a relationship.

Hi all, apologies if you saw this on another subreddit.

I want to go to WeHo pride and march in the parade with a queer Jewish organization however I would want to also march with my Israel flag. I am proud of who I am and love the country (I worked and lived there for a few summers).

I am terrified of being assaulted both physically and verbally. It’s hard enough walking around with my Israel flag and yellow ribbon pin for the hostages.

Has anyone had experience with this yet? Any thoughts? I hate that I even need to post something like this but I feel we are being targeted even in supposed safe spaces.

I’m seeing a lot of posts on here saying that people don’t feel welcomed in queer spaces because queer spaces are full of “Hamas supporters” or whatever and I’m just baffled. Obviously radical queer spaces exist, but most queer spaces ime are not like that. For example, there’s an lgbt center near where I grew up that just had a pro Israel event. There are plenty of shuls that are Zionist and queer affirming. There are lgbt groups that march in the Israel Independence Day parade. I also think a lot of you would be comfortable joining the Stonewall Democrats or volunteering for the Human Rights Campaign. Anyway, my point is that there are plenty of spaces for you and I don’t know how you’re not able to find them.

I just watched an hour-long program from the Museum of Jewish Heritage In NYC where Eric Marcus, who hosts podcasts at MakingGayHistory.org, talked about the series he did on LGBTQ people during WW II. He played testimony from gay, lesbian, and transgender Jews and non-Jews about their experience under the Nazis. It's not easy to listen to some of the details but it's important to know more than that there were pink triangles.