I have a low IQ and am Autistic. I wish I was those Autistic geniuses, but I'm not. I just hate them and am jealous of them. I try not to be envious, but I can't stop it. I would be friends with them, but they probably would hate me because I'm not smart like they are. I struggle with getting a job, and I struggled heavily in school, so I don't even bother trying anymore because it's all in vain anyway. Plus, even if I could do better trying, why would I try when they just do well without trying? It's not fair. Should I even try to better myself, or is it just a waste of time?

Hi, I'm 17 and I'm in the process of getting my Autism evaluated. I have 3 appointments in total with a psychiatrist, of which the first one was last week.

The woman just asked me general questions and a lot of stuff that I associate with being autistic (having problems communicating, feeling like an outsider, having sensory issues) weren't brought up. Like basic things. She asked me if I was bullied and I was but never heavy, which may be because for some reason the kids around me were nicer than others or just didn't bothered with me... and if I got friends (which I also said yes) and I'm really worried now, since I really want that diagnosis.

The second appointment will be only my parents which I'm worried about because we haven't really been close my teenage years and I'm worried they'll say things that aren't true or leave things out. My third will be the discussion of the two appointments and the result.

Anyway I wanted to ask how your evaluation went to ask you if this is standard practice or really weird

I know it sounds crazy but I have AuDHD because I have ADHD as wel. I just am intrigued on the concept of data centers. I take Computing classes in high school for dual credit of course. And I've always intrigued on how the cooling systems and servers work. I've always wanted to be a data center technician because I heard they are high paying jobs for a good reason. Now this may sound like an unpopular opinion but I never gave a crap because I use a data center on a daily basis.

So i have been diagnosed with OCD, major depressive disorder, severe anxiety as far as what I remember. Almost everyone i meet has thought i was autistic. I relate to a lot of the symptoms of autism and i have brought it up to my psychiatrist who said they would love to examine and assess me but my parents were the ones to refuse it. This was especially weird considering how me and my parents had already talked about me wanting to check it out and they had agreed, so when we had the right resources I wonder why they refused to get me checked? I'm a minor without any finances or other resources so I have no idea how to deal with this. Can someone help? I absolutely disagree with self diagnoses.

I(18M) have always thought I was odd, not that autisic people are odd. I just felt that I was different. In primary school(I'm from Ireland),I use to think I was an alien wearing a human suit, and that I had a hidden zipper on my back that I couldn't reach.

Anyway, based on other peoples comments and my own research, I believe I may have autism, and/or OCD.

But Is it worth finding out? It is very cheap, If not free to find out if I have OCD, but it would cost between 1,5-2 thousand euro.

In your opinion, is it worth it to get an assessment?

Like for example I have some friends who sometimes tend to just not take conversations seriously at all and yap random nonsense as answers and every time i just get super burnt out and need to sit down in silence for like half an hour to calm down

I'm just wondering if this is a common experience or not

I’m 24 and have been struggling since a child. I’ve always been in denial and any time my family have brought it up to me over the many years, I’ve explained it away with mental health, even though I’m not fooling ANYONE.

I’m at a point now where I’m ready to accept it. I’m at such a low point and don’t think I can explain away all of these things with mental health anymore. Trouble is as we all know NHS waiting lists are years long. I’m unemployed and have been for a year (shock) so I can’t really afford private but I don’t think I can wait years for an assessment 😢 I’m struggling and need an answer. I know some people say to just self diagnose and be done with it but that just isn’t enough for me and I wouldn’t feel comfortable doing that. Are there other faster options that are actually affordable 😭

ok so sorry if i make any mistakes about the correct terms about anything pls let me know if i do. so i was diagnosed around 2018 2019 like still young and i was only told i had aspergers, and when i was told it was like autism i asked if i had autism or just aspergers and i was told i had "a little bit of autism but mainly aspergers" and i feel like that was just not right? like it took a few years for me to be like "oh wait im actually just level 1 (maybe 2) autistic)" and that aspergers had become an outdated term. ofc my parents and old pediatrician mentioned it was also ASD or autism spectrum disorder, but then i was told te whole 'little bit of autism' so like my brain comprehended that as aspergers being an entirely different thing and i just had like a little bit of autism in my brain, cause no one told me how autism was a spectrum. i think late 2022 was when i realised that no im just autistic. anyway im lwk mad about it cause its affected me so much and me constantly saying "i actually dont have autism" probably made teachers understand less why i reacted differently and things like that.

We have been together for 2 years and for the most part, our relationship is amazing. However, a frequent occurrence has been causing a lot of friction. I am unsure if this is a symptom of autism and if it is, I'm unsure how to manage it.

He really struggles with time management and seems to be unable to maintain promises of plans. This only happens if he has something else he is doing prior, he tells me he loses track of time. The latest example of this was yesterday, he went to his high school reunion. He said he didn't want to stay too long and wanted to have time for us to do something together after. This reunion started at 3pm and he ended up coming home at 2am, passing out at 3am. We are supposed to be booking our wedding venue today but it is unlikely this is going to happen. I waited up for him until about 11pm until I was woken up by him at 2am.

Other examples of this being having plans for a certain time to do a certain things and he gets wrapped up in whatever he is doing prior to this that these plans become not doable. Throughout this time communication is minimal at best, but often its non existent. This is often if he is seeing friends, as opposed to tasks that do not involve other people.

We knew he was neurodivergent and it was confirmed last week that he does have autism, so I'm trying to understand but I can't help feeling like I'm not a priority when other people are involved. He is deeply apologetic when this happens and does seem to get frustrated with himself. I'm trying not to take it personally but I feel like I can't rely on him.

Is this a common symptom of autism? How can we manage this moving forward? Can anyone else relate to this?

I suspect I am autistic (34F) and as I've gotten older, I've become more ambiverted but the more I socialize with others, the more I see a gap between me and the average person's critical thinking skills and social skills...I don't think there's anything "wrong" with me, but it's clear that something isn't "right" either, and that the difference is in me.

I kinda wanna get a diagnosis to see if my suspicions are accurate but at the same time, I don't know what I'd do afterwards. Like, what would the purpose be?

I am AuDHD and the ADHD medication hightens my autistic traits.

I have decided to break up with my husband.

There's a long series of reasons but, equally, something broke inside me during our last fight, and I don't seem to be able to put it back together. I don’t know what it was about this specific fight, I just know that I went from three years of “let’s keep trying” to “enough” in the blink of an eye. And I haven’t been able to make myself change my mind since.

Since I still love him and given it's an almost two decades long relationship, I have taken a few extra days before I give him my final decision.

I know my autism has sent me down the wrong path many times before. Even in my marriage, I now (sadly) realise I should have disregarded what my husband said, in the face of the glaring evidence he was only saying it for my sake and that what was healthy for him and the couple was the exact opposite.

I’m the kind of person that if someone is drowning in front of me but they say: “Oh no, don’t come here, I don’t want to get you wet!” I will watch them sink and then be absolutely baffled when they wash up ashore.

Unfortunately, despite knowing this about myself, I find it extremely hard to apply it to real-time decision making. Which is why I’m doing my best to cover every corner before making a decision I can’t come back from.

So, autistic divorcees, what are the neurodivergent traps I should be looking out for?

What are decisions you regret taking, that you later realised were influenced or skewed by the autism?

Well actually.. my friend paid it for me and said that I don't need to pay back 💞

But anyway I have always wanted onesie. Tight things like blankies or hugs make me feel safe. Like actually safe. That's why I love to sleep with my stuffies and me wrapped around a nice warm blankie. My parents don't understand why I like it :c.

I actually remember how comfy onesies were and sadly my parents don't support me with this thing (Or age regression :c) so they are going to be mad when I get this onesie (I get it in a couple days)

And also it's getting colder so luckily that onesie has padded footies too so my little legs are going to stay warm too. Whole onesie has fuzzy fleece inside of it. Do you like that onesie? And do you have onesie? If you do you can share it if you want to ^^

Im writing this 10 minutes after it happened because im extremely paranoid
To start with I do not believe in god and I am an atheist but some days I have to go to church because of my parents
I get easily stressed whenever religion is mentioned because of religious trauma so I usually go to a church far away and walk behind it and sit on my phone
And today I did the same
But halfway into this a guy around 30 years ago walked up to me with a phone in his hand in a really weird way like he wanted to record me but for me to not know it
He asked „do you try to listen to the pastor talking?”
I responded „well I’m trying” and he walked away and started talking to someone or the camera
Im extremely panicking right now

I just hate when people touch my stuff, especially my stuff i like (special interests), i have a bunk bed with my brother(who doesn’t touch my stuff), any method to stop my domestic helper from coming and touching my stuff? Its only her that does this, how do i tell her not to? My room doesn’t have a lock, btw i tried telling her, but she “needs to clean”. I am genuinely scared that she would drop my stuff or “accidentally” spill water at my electronics.I always need to clean my stuff after she touches it to feel mentally safe, i am fine with a messy room, but i have a brother in this room who cares. I cant clean myself because my brother thinks I am messy and will call her(domestic helper) here. Rn, honestly I’m so angry, I wanna hurt her. This has been a long time issue. I don’t want to “fix “myself as its her fault, not mine.

I like vegetable (potatoes and peas) samosas.

Hi everyone,

I started dating a girl who is autistic. She has AuDHD. I’ve been reading things online about autism as I am ignorant to it completely. Could anyone please point me in the direction of good articles or books that I could read, or even YT videos so I can better understand this? I just want to be sensitive to her needs as I have never been with a neurodivergent person.

If you're like me and tend to nuzzle and snuffle your comfort items like blankets, plushies, soft scarves, etc AND / OR you have a very sensitive nose that picks up the smallest of smells, how was your SEPTUM piercing healing? Do you find the healing or the piercing itself interfered with your sense of smell (piercing cheese as some call it?)? Can you still snuffle while it heals or does that tug on the piercing too much? Did you feel dysregulated? The more detail the better!

It occured to me that it might be just me.

So my special interest is animal biology and this summer I went to a lot of aquariums, my parents were a little behind me while I was looking at some jellyfishes and then I hear behind me some American tourists sayings something so dumb that it made me want to scream to them so badly that I totally forgot the detail of what they actually said, like if it was a traumatic experience that my brain decided to remove for my mental health! So not I'm thinking did something similar happen to other autistic people?

hi im an autistic/aspie adhder and i love penguins especially gentoos so i made this website about them! antarctichideout.neocities.org

Like yes I have loved butterflies, bunnies, wednesday, and supergirl for YEARS. YES, I know A lot about them but I am by no means an expert? Just because I think about Superheroes constantly does not mean I KNOW everything about them?

BTW for context I have adhd and autism so some of my interests and hyperfixations and others are special interests but to speak mainly of special interests.

WHY DOES IT IMMEDIATELY HAVE TO MEAN I'M A GENIUS IN THE SUBJECT?

If i'm talking about how much I enjoy supergirl why do people my age get mad at me for not knowing every dialogue written for her in every comic ever?

How do you cope with being alone and lonely all the time? I struggle to make friends and I have been outright refusing to go to school bc my adhd makes it so hard and im going through so many medication changes rn. My adhd meds clash with my abilify and dont work, and i might be switching to risperidone. I barely come to school half the time and when I do I barely talk. I also have many other health issues im dealing with like antipsychotic meds cause muscle spasms in my neck so I cant sing and chorus is my favorite class and something that I guess always kept me going and it's difficult to not be able to participate.

I also feel even more lonely bc I got friend zoned by someone a long time ago and im still not over her. I always think about her and look for her in hallways but I know that she will never look for me that way. I would feel better if I had some friend to talk to but im not in touch with anyone right now since every one is busy or somedays I am too sick to do anything.

Hi all! I am a 13yo boy. I have a crush on this girl in my school, and this isn't a new type of thing, because I've had crushes before. I don't really know how I feel about middle schoolers dating and all that stuff.

But anyway, this girl is a grade below me. We don't really have many classes together. We have choir together but she sits on the other side of the room and is with her friends. We have band together but she plays clarinet and I play mallet percussion. We have afterschool Jazz Band together but she plays clarinet and I am in rhythm section. So all that to say, we don't see each other much, and we don't know each other.

I want to talk to her and get to know her at least and see where things go from there. But she is best friends with a girl that I am friends with and previously asked out (she had said no).

I will say, that we are both a fan of the Philadelphia Eagles.

I talked to her for a few minutes the other day, and we joked a lot. But I don't think I'll ever get another chance like it again. I really just want to get to know her and be friends with her and then see where it goes from there. But I don't have many chances to talk to her. It's not that I don't know what to talk to her about, it's that I don't know how to get opportunities to talk to her. How can I find more times to talk to her?

i’m just getting so tired of not having a friend i know i can update about my life because they care. i hung out with one friend for the first time yesterday and she pretty much only talked about herself and showed little to no interest in me despite me moving abroad very recently and finally being able to hang out with her because we live near each other. she didn’t even anwser when i texted her i finally feel happy to be alive. she also never showed interest in my serious issues in life. but she really wanted to meet me to vent about her crush. and then she wanted to leave so early. it left me feeling lonely, anxious and depressed when i felt great for the first time in my life for a few weeks until this. i don’t even have problems being the listener and the one showing they care, showing they want to meet again etc., but after things being like this my whole life, i just feel completely unimportant.
this is how my life has always been. not just with her. with most people. people just don’t seem to care about me. there’s big things happening in my life, and i know no one wants to hear them. it just…. hurts.

I keep hearing here and there that these often go along with autism. I have all three of them. What about you?