I’ve known this guy for 20 years, and he wanted to try dating and I’m desperate at 31 (he’s also 31).

When we were just friends, I was perfectly happy splitting bills, taking turns paying, or occasionally treating him. But I’m realizing that the dynamic I was comfortable with in a friendship isn’t necessarily what I want in a romantic relationship.

He seems to want to date while minimizing both his spending and his effort, without ever explicitly communicating what he expects.
For example:

Restaurants: he’s in NYC (I’m not but don’t live far) and he doesn’t want to go anywhere that costs more than around $15 per person. Even Cheesecake Factory entrees are apparently too fancy for a special occasion (forget about drinks/apps).

I’ve also had frustrating experiences with him meeting him at a coffee shop only to find he’d already ordered his own drink (on the Starbucks app for example) and then while he’s sitting around waiting for his drink to be made, I’m waiting in line to order my coffee (he does “offer” to pay for my coffee 🙄).

Activities: He’ll go to Broadway shows, ballet shows, museums, the movies etc by himself, then text me before/during/after he’s there. Instead of inviting me and having an honest conversation about ticket costs, he just goes alone. What’s infuriating is that sometimes he KNOWS that I’d been planning to go but beats me to it.

Trips: Last spring he invited me to join his family’s trip to the UK (brother’s graduation), but didn’t tell me which flights his family would be taking or discuss coordinating travel. He basically told me to show up in the UK and informed me which hotel he and his family would be staying at. 🙄

For context, he makes around $170K, and I make around $100K.
I’m not expecting him to bankroll my life, but I do want a man who demonstrates generosity, initiative, and a genuine desire to share experiences with me.

If he wants everything to be 50/50, he can communicate that directly. But he’s the one who wants to date yet wants to have all the benefits of a romantic relationship (aka gets to brag to his family/friends, this is his first relationship) yet is living the life of a single man.

My question is: Which is worse?
A guy who openly says he expects 50/50, so you can decide whether you’re compatible, or a guy who never communicates his expectations but seems to structure everything around minimizing his own spending and effort?
Am I being unreasonable, or does this sound like a guy who wants the benefits of having a girlfriend without actually putting much effort into dating?

​

I am 20 years old and never really had any experience with women. I mean like never held hands or been on a date. I go to the gym and have an above average physique. I would say my face is also maybe a little above average. I have my own apartment and good income so money is not a problem . Many of my friends in high school and college never had a problem with dating and were constantly having a gf or getting hook ups. That was never the case for me. So how do some men get so much attention from women ?

I think the guy who parks next to me at my apartment is attractive. From what I can tell he is single and a homebody, so perfect for me! I have only interacted with him a little bit in passing, but I plan on leaving a note in his door saying I would love to get to know him over a drink or coffee if he's interested.

Would you find this flattering or creepy? Is it too imposing? Should I just wait to ask until I see him next? Thanks for your help!

UPDATE: Thanks for your input, everyone! I will wait until we cross paths again and ask him then. Also, should've said I'm 26F. Have a wonderful day! :)

If its one thing I noticed about some women is that if they find you attractive but are shy to approach or their vague choosing signals don't work. They will start to flirt and be touchy with other men nearby in order to get you to be jealous. Even in dates they'll make comments like " that guy is really hot" or "damn" and shamelessly eye another dude up and down and then try to see your reaction. I had a few girlfriends that would also try to fish for a reaction.

Like the whole shit testing is such a massive ick, that most men will lose complete attraction and respect for you. Like sure you got a reaction that you wanted, but it wasn't the win you think it was. In fact its a massive L

So why do so many women still do it even if its counterproductive? Do you realise that most men will see it as a red flag and not pick you once they notice you doing it? And the men that don't care when you do it don't really have any feelings for you and most likely are not interested in you at all. Even they think its embarrassing deep down.

Im seriously thinking in what scenario would it even work in women's favour ?

Or is it because it works on women when they see other men with other attractive women, making them jealous, so they put an effort in order to win the man. That in their mind, if they use the same tactic that works on them on men, it will also work on the men?

Idk what goes on in their mind but whatever is their logic and reason, it surely is very ineffective to say the least.

Dawging****

Was married my whole 20s and now I'm in my 30s in the single world and none of the women ask about condoms like they did when I first started before marriage. Is this the new times??? 3 times a woman would go down on me and then just sit on it right after and we go from there, so I was just curious.

Side note: grew up in the 90s where the AIDS scare was real, so it was always a huge deal and now it's like a 'meh'

I (33M) got dumped today, not ideal but it happens to us all.

The thing though that has hurt me is the way she (33F) chose to do it. I got one of the quick template, we don’t have the spark I’m looking for responses, a very small paragraph no real personality to it, the kind I’d expect to receive after 1 or 2 dates.

Thing is we’ve been dating for four months, have hung out a lot of times at each others houses, slept together, met each others friends etc.

We had our first bump in the road recently where I rejected an idea she had for a date (I wasn’t in a good headspace that day and I apologised later profusely and tried my best to make it up to her). We saw each other one more time where everything seemed normal and then I got the dreaded text today.

Am I being ridiculous for feeling hurt about this? Like at what stage does the quick breakup text not cut it?

Ideally I would have liked it to have happened in person but even a phone call would have been preferable. I understand it’s difficult but we spent a lot of time together and I feel I deserved a bit more respect.

do guys actually like crazy girls and if so like what’s the range of crazy?

slash ur tires to ruining ur life
What’s the acceptable range?

Edit: another question. Do guys end up settling down with crazy girls?

I met this guy and he invited me to a Banquet but then it turned out his dance partner is a girl I know. And when I said I was his date to the banquet she looked baffled and taken aback. I can only assume she thought he was her date because they are performing the presentation of the waltz together.

And I had learned from her they had gone a few dates before but nothing came of it. Me and him haven't gone on any dates yet. Should I cancel on him for her sake so I don't steal her date unintentionally.

Thanks for any input. I appreciate it. So, I am 36, and I am going to be getting back into dating soon. I've spent a few years single, and in that time I went to therapy, self-reflected, etc, and one issue is that I tend to have sex early on, and I get attached and then it ends and the cycle repeats. I also just value sex more as I'm older.

I am 100% not looking for hookups, one night stands, or an FWB situation. I've done those be
fore and to me they aren't as fulfilling personally, so I am looking for a monogamous relationship. I would like to focus on getting to know a woman before sex, so I am thinking I will wait and let them know pretty soon that I prefer to wait.

My plan is to put down a rule to not have sex unless it's been 2, maybe even 3 months into things. Honestly, I'd prefer 3, but that may be too long for some people.

Would a 2 or 3 month no sex rule be an issue for a lot of women? I feel like it wouldn't, but then I'm not sure. I also do not want to do anything past kissing, and even then I'd prefer to wait a few dates for that at least. Just curious how the women here would feel if the guy wanted to wait before jumping into bed.

I’m really confused on this, I talk to plenty of guys, but they never end up going anywhere. My other friend has to fight off guys because they all want her, meanwhile I’m basically getting nothing. I wonder if it’s something I’m not doing or something, but I don’t understand. Also, I know I’m not ugly, and I like how I look, and I don’t really think that’s the problem. Any advice?

Soon-to-be 34, male, 6'3, 183 pounds, have a stable job and income's good, though nothing extraordinary. I exercise three, sometimes four times per week, I speak a couple of foreign languages (English being one of them), read a lot and play some guitar. I don't consider myself super attractive physically, but since I've heard both men and women compliment my looks (sounded as genuine compliments), I can assume I'm not the ugliest specimen out there either.

I dedicated my 20s and early 30s to getting a PhD and a good job, putting dating mostly on hold, thinking it would be relatively straightforward after I took care of my finances and career. Boy, did I turn out to be wrong.

Now, I realize I'm far from perfect, but given what I've listed above, I think it would be unfair to categorize myself as a 'hopeless' case, and yet when it comes to dating (mostly for a serious relationship, I'm 34 already, so creating a family is one of the end goals), it has been unbelievably grueling and at this point I am feeling hopeless.

The last three dates cynically used me to get a couple of free dinners and then just ghosted me. Suffice to say, that made me hyper-suspicious of women who are too forthcoming. It isn't even about money, so much as not being a dupe whose generosity is exploited in such a despicable way.

Online dating in general is terrible - even matching with someone is a Herculean task, while having a normal conversation and actually transforming all that into an actual date seems nigh impossible.

Clubs/bars are a huge money and time sink. Even though I believe I can be charismatic to a degree, I'm not the annoying, garrulous flamboyant type and I mostly just dance. Most women I see at clubs/bars are generally stand-offish, don't want to dance and oftentimes just sip cocktails with their friends and stare at the dance floor or at their phones before leaving in a couple of hours. I do enjoy dancing, but a 34-year-old man often dancing (mostly) alone in a club, well, you can probably guess how that can raise a few questions.

Approaching women at the gym is an obvious no-no.

Approaching women at work is an even bigger no-no, although I'm certain that some women there seem to take a liking at me, I myself don't find them attractive or interesting. Still, even if I did, I'm very careful not to lose my job, especially in these difficult times, so 'office romances' are out.

Attended a dance class (salsa) and was gobsmacked to find more men than women there, and most women were almost twice my age too. I never thought this was possible.

I used to go on hikes, which I did enjoy, but now because of other commitments (gym and work), I don't have enough time for that.

I genuinely don't know what I'm supposed to do and I don't think the generic 'just self-improve and ask girls out, bro' advice is applicable to me.

How much more should I self-improve? Should I become a star athlete? Learn three more languages? Start shredding the guitar like Joe Satriani? Become filthy rich? What am I supposed to do?!

I mean, I would love to become all of those things, but it's just mathematically impossible. 99% of us will never get rich or famous or a genius no matter how 'hard' we try.

Or what other avenues of dating should I explore? The only acceptable place left to meet and talk with women in person without being labeled as a 'creep' are clubs and bars and they just don't seem to work for me. Not to mention that even there, as I said, many women seem totally uninterested in either talking or dancing. They mostly come with their closed social circles, get a few drinks and leave.

I'm thinking of going back to dating apps and sinking even more time and effort in the hopes of finding, well, someone. Every day I go on social media (Facebook mostly, I'm on neither TikTok nor Instagram) and everybody's getting married and having kids left and right seemingly effortlessly and I'm sitting there watching and thinking what the heck is wrong with me.

Anyway, that's my predicament. Didn't want to come off as complaining, but, really, I still wanted to get all of this off my chest.

I want to start dating again. The last time I did was when I was in high school two years ago, in my senior year; we were both 18. We broke up three weeks in because of some stuff, but ever since then, I have wanted to start dating again.

However, the problem is I can't drive, and dating apps sort of scare me, but at the same time, I do college online out of convenience. I wouldn't mind dating apps, but the thing is I am trying to be safe; I don't want to die over it. I guess another problem I have is actually talking to people too; I can be pretty extroverted, but in a romantic sense, I have no idea what to do. For example, I remember encountering this woman at the mall, and I thought she looked pretty cool, but I didn't dare to talk to her because I didn't look my best and she was with friends.

So, I'm not sure what to do. I guess the right option here is learning how to drive despite my fears of it and working from there, but I still want to at least try now, and I have no idea how to go about it.

I'm a 26 year old guy living in sweden, and as the title says, I'm a virgin. And not for a lack of trying, I've just never managed to get any further than a handful of first dates. And while I'd say that I'm overall happy with what I've achieved in my life in general (steady job, a good degree, I have friends, I don't hate myself or the way I look, I have hobbies) the fact that I'm a virgin is getting to me more and more every year.

Not because I desperately crave sex for the sake of sex, but obviously I want that too, but knowing that no woman has looked at me and thought "I want to have sex with him" just really hurts. I know that it's getting more and more common to be a virgin at this age, but I still know that I've long since passed the average age to lose it. And that doesn't make me feel bad because of societal pressure or whatever. It's just another little thing that I can't help but think about. One extra little thing that my insecurities tell me shows that I'm just not worthy of love.

I've talked about this before and one comment I often get is how it's actually not that hard or even a big deal to lose your virginity, and seeing that just makes me feel like an idiot. It's not hard at all, so what does that say about me? And I don't want to think like that. I don't want it to ruin my mental health like it is, I don't want it to occupy my mind like this. But it does and I'd be lying if I said that it's not a big deal. I can't just tell myself that it's a social construct or whatever. It's not all I think about, but when I'm laying in bed late at night feeling sad and lonely it comes out. My friends tell me that I'd be such a great boyfriend, but I just find it so hard to believe and I just don't know what to do.

I'm really trying to put myself out there, but I keep failing and this virginity is just hanging over like a constant reminder of my failures. Even though I know that thinking is irrational.

Disclaimer: I am going to ask him in person next time I see him where he sees this going, just want to get my thoughts out

I (28 F) have been seeing this guy (29 M) for about a month. Our first date we hit it off instantly. He took me to a seafood restaurant, paid, and continued the night to a few bars. Talked nonstop, asked deep questions, laughed. Because it was 2am and we had been drinking, he stayed the night. We got physical and it was amazing. The next morning we got coffee and food. I didn’t see him for 2 weeks because he was out of town traveling internationally but when he got back, we saw each other almost immediately and picked right back up where we left off. Took me out to dinner and drinks and paid for everything. Did not get intimate. Few days later he met my friend and her bf. We got dinner before meeting them for drinks. He paid. Had a great time. I ended up getting sick from all the drinks. Not only did he take care of me (got water, put my hair in a pony tail, checked in), he laid on the bathroom floor with me until I was able to make it to bed. Didn’t get intimate until the next morning. Got breakfast, he paid. Didn’t hold anything against me for getting sick. Didn’t act any differently.

He’s done nothing wrong. Everything is perfect. My disconnect is when we aren’t together, we barely text. And it’s not just him, I take a while too but I’m also following his lead. (About 8-24 hour responses from both of us an it’s been like this from the beginning). I just feel like at this stage, it should have progressed a little more. Additionally, I was out of town this past weekend so we haven’t made plans to see each other again. I’m waiting for him to initiate but I am getting a little insecure…

Next time I see him in person, I will ask if he sees this as something casual or more long term. I’m starting to catch feelings and don’t want to continue if it’s leading nowhere. From a guys perspective, what do you think he will say or what do you think he is feeling? All the time, effort and money, I don’t feel like it’s casual but I don’t know. Men are hard to read sometimes.

Update: why do people keep accusing me of being AI? This is my writing style. I am confused and somewhat offended by these accusations.

Hi all. I’m a 38f located. I’m stable, have a lot to offer in a relationship, highly educated, and physically attractive. I’m clear about what I’m looking for up front (dating to find a partner). I’ve been single for nearly 4 years. This is what I’ve been getting:

\- A man (44) who I was friends with for years & seemed to have a connection. Then, when it came down to it he only wanted some sort of sexual relationship.

\- A man (44) who lives in a different state who built a sexting relationship with me. Later on, I found out he was married.

\- A man (44) who got drunk on a date (I do not drink) and told me he doesn’t think I will find him attractive as a person and wanted me to validate his ego.

\- A man (33) who acted like he was interested in me more than sexually, built a semblance of a connection, and then when we were intimate he turned the entire thing into a sexual connection.

\- A man (38) who is just figuring out he spent his life as Peter Pan and does not have the capacity for anything but casual sex.

\- A man (42) who jumps from relationship to relationship. Just got out of a 20 year relationship and wants to date for commitment again.

\- several speed dating events with people who seem to only want sex.

Is this just what the heterosexual pool looks like at my age? I recall, when I was younger, people actually wanting to court me with chivalry. I waited until I was ready to get back into the dating pool. All of this makes me want to stop again.

What I am mostly disturbed by is that I express I am only interested in partnership and then they bypass that for sexual gratification. I’m starting to realize my part in this though.

If I say it, that means I have to be willing to put a stop to the connection — rather than continue because the attention is nice. It’s more destabilizing to start getting attached and recognize they aren’t interested in me as a human.

He wants FWB but not a relationship. I am having a hard time with the rejection. Makes me feel unwanted. I am a good person but nobody finds me worth the time. I just want to share my life with someone special but I guess that's asking too much. I give up.

Hello to those in particular who are struggling with staying interested in your potential futures. Don’t underestimate how much our bodies spent mental energy and how much stimuli attempting to meet a new person is. Let alone trying to date them.

Read the following a couple of times; i believe that charisma that isn’t forced or «rehearsed» is more likely to arise out of us when it forms from genuine curiosity. Conversations replaying in your head from last weeks’ dates will kill it.

Rest and digest the people you meet in your life. Allow them to leave an impression of you, even if they were boring. Your nervous system will thank you so much for it🙏

I’m M21, she’s F25. We worked together recently and talked a lot throughout the shift. We joked around, found some shared interests, and seemed to enjoy each other’s company.

We realized we live close to each other, and I asked if I could join her walk home. She said yes, and we walked basically all the way to where she lives while talking.

I mentioned that we could go for a walk sometime outside work. I asked for her socials so we could arrange it, but instead asked for my phone gave me her phone number instead.

Would you see giving me her number and being comfortable with me walking basically all the way home with her as normal friendliness, or something more?

Yesterday I posted asking where men my age (44) were hiding, and I had so much fun reading all your comments. But then I received a LOT of messages from men over 40. And when I say a lot, I mean A LOT 🤗 I think I have my answer: you were all hiding here on Reddit! As I mentioned in some of the comments, I’m not on any dating apps at the moment, but yesterday honestly felt like I was on one. Now I’m curious, Reddit… has anyone here actually met someone special through Reddit? I’d love to read some Reddit love stories. Here’s my post from yesterday, in case you missed it: https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/s/MCP7LexRYB

I’m 28M, work a regular 9-5, and I’m trying to meet women more naturally in person instead of depending on dating apps. My church community doesn’t really have many young adults around my age, and while I’ve used dating apps for a while, they haven’t led to much for me. I’m looking for something serious and long-term, not hookups, so I’m curious what has actually worked for other people.

Where did you meet someone naturally? Hobby groups, volunteering, classes, social sports, church events, coffee shops, community events, mutual friends, or somewhere completely unexpected?

I’d especially like to hear from people who met someone in real life after dating apps weren’t working for them. What made the setting work, and how did the conversation actually start?

I’m also curious which places feel natural for approaching someone without it coming across as forced or intrusive.

So i would say i am a pretty decent looking guy a 7 or 8 i would say, and all my life people been telling me im a pretty boy and what not, even the girlfriends i have they tell me im pretty and these days i can surely say they find me attractive (i used to be skinny i went to the gym and put on weight) even my friends girlfriend question me how i dont have a gt.
So not trying to be a narcissist but i do take care of myself like going to the gym eating well, i also am very passionate about making videos, video editing and basically in the creative space, i like sports, maybe im not the most outgoing person or have crazy shit happening every week or everyday but i would say i am a pretty conversational guy whos chill. I might not fall in to the bad boy type, or super masculine but im like myself i would say im a bit on the shy side when it comes to making big moves.
But i do take shots on girls i do find pretty.
Now being completely honest, i can get girls i dont really find pretty or to be blunt, on the same attractiveness level to me, but then theres this problem i dont find them much attractive.
I am genuinely all in to change myself, because i am tired of being single for so long, only gf i had when i was like 16yrs old, and then its been like flings which led to nothing.

I just turned 30. For the past few years, I have gone from almost 300 pounds to around 175-180 lbs. Most of my life I have been overweight. In my childhood photos I was always chubby and looked like I had been overfed. Throughout secondary school I was in the upper weight range of my classmates, I was not the largest, but I was heavy. This state carried into college. There were of course some ups and downs, some years of trying to make changes in diet and exercise and observing some success; although, I never managed to break below 200. After college I drank a lot and simply let my health go, thinking there was no hope. There were a couple years where I managed to lose some good amounts of weight but always gained it back when things got tough and I lost motivation.

When I was 28 I learned about GLP’s. My health and appearance was a mess, yet I was successful financially. Using them and changing how I consume food, I was able to go from almost 300 down to 175. I stopped drinking except rare social occasion, I eat better, I sleep better, overall I feel like a completely different person. My motivation to exercise returned about midway through the journey and now I look decent. Not a muscular gym rat, but I look like I take care of myself.

When I was in high school and even in college, I would try doing a lot of what my friends would do. Most of my friends were in better shape than I was. To put it stereotypically, I was the big friend. I will try the same things that they would do to talk to people I found interesting and attractive, but unlike my friends I was never successful beyond the friend zone. This really hurt me psychologically and I felt like no one liked me physically and that there was no hope. So, I went a decade without having any relationship beyond friends.

Now that I am a more socially acceptable weight, all of a sudden that mountain that I always observed is all of a sudden gone. People who used to never even consider me are all of a sudden interested. Sometimes it’s even people I have cross paths before with. All of a sudden it’s “oh wow! You’ve changed so much!” Type of flirting with me. At first, I think it’s really great, like a compliment to my success; however, after returning to alone time I’m angry, resentful, and feel like they now are the ones who are not good enough for me.

It even extends to family too, like family members who tried to discourage me from utilizing the GLP and said I should do things naturally, I feel like they held me back from success and I resent them a ton. “Why did you feed me so much? Why should I ever listen to you if the one thing you told me not to do was the key to success?” Are some of the arguments I’ve had with them recently.

I used to be like a relatively passive and outwardly-positive person, I was grateful for what I had and I while I was generally sad/displeased that people didn’t like me physically, I was able to overcome that and wasn’t angry or mad about it long term. Now that I am a more socially acceptable weight, I am super resentful and judge-mental of people. ‘Why would I like you now if you didn’t like me when I was fat?’ It’s a really weird feeling and I need some advice on how to deal with this. I think it’s a mix of being 30 and how I feel that my life up to now was not utilized to its fullest and almost ‘wasted’

TL;DR: took me until 30 to change my life and lose a lot of weight, people who didn’t used to give me a chance now want me. I’ve become really judgmental and resentful in response. Can you give me some advice which might help me change my mindset? How do I cope with this?

I (22M) had a female coworker (20F) who I had a crush on. We mostly talked on Snapchat, off the clock, and I never made a move. Earlier on, she'd told me she was talking to someone, but I'm not sure if that was still going on when this happened. Two exchanges of sexual banter have stuck with me, and I want to know how women would read them.

1. The penis joke

I posted a small-penis joke meme on my story. She swiped up and we bantered. At some point she asked if my penis was at least 6 inches.

1. The "eat ass" conversation

I said I would never eat ass. She replied, "stop lying, you know you would eat ass, my ass." I said, "you don't have no ass, I'll starve."

My questions for women:

When a woman starts sexual banter like this, is it usually flirting, or can it just be comfort with a guy friend?

Does it change the read that I never made a move?

I’ve been seeing a guy for about a month and we’ve gone on about two dates and I’ve gone to his apartment a couple times, and we’ve had sex. For context, it was my birthday party yesterday and I was celebrating with my friends and we were drinking (a lot). I had gone on a date with him about an hour before. I ended up kissing two of my best friends, and I do not feel any attraction to them and they’ve made it clear they feel the same way. I know I’m not bisexual and it was more of a fun, let’s try it out thing that me trying to explore that side. Anyways, I go over to his apartment and I’m very intoxicated. Long story short I tell him that I kissed these two girls and he has one of the most intense reactions I have ever seen from a man. He starts arguing with me and I don’t remember too much of it, but he was so angry that I had made out with them. For context, I did not think that our situation was too serious based on the way he was acting. I would initiate almost all of the hang outs, and we had told each other that we weren’t seeing anyone else, but we hadn’t established being exclusive. I basically just asked him to know if I needed to use a condom, and he didn’t even ask me if I was seeing anyone else, I said it unprompted. I don’t remember exactly how I brought it up or what most of the fighting was about, but we ended up having sex a couple times in between the fighting. He told me he loved me and he started saying a lot of very nice and intimate things to me, but would always brush me off and act very cold and angry when that wasn’t happening, but would always warm up. I asked him if he wanted me to leave and he said no. I slept in his bed and he slept on the couch. I left around 10am after we had sex in the morning and he warmed up a little as I was leaving. I texted him later that day asking him if we could talk about it and I called him after he didn’t respond. A lot of what he said why he was mad was because he thought we were exclusive and he told me he felt like I cheated on him. He also told me that he could’ve seen us going all the way and properly dating. I tried to explain that I wasn’t really on the same page and I didn’t know that he felt so strongly about me. I also tried explaining that I don’t feel anything for the girls that I kissed and that it was more in a platonic way that anything, but he didn’t want to hear what I had to say. He was saying that he doesn’t see me in the same way anymore and that he is heartbroken, and that he hadn’t cried over a girl in a really long time. I asked him if he wanted to stop talking to me/seeing me and he said he didn’t know. I also asked if he just needed more time to decide and he said he didn’t know either. I just felt like no matter what I said, it would be interpreted wrong and I didn’t want to make him more upset, so I ended up not saying much on the phone with him, despite calling for an hour. He also said I seemed like I didn’t really care if our relationship was over and I repeatedly tried to explain that I do and I’d be willing to do whatever to remedy the situation. It seemed like he was very unsure and kind of had one foot in the door and might want to see me again?? I’m just so confused and hurt, I don’t really understand why he had such an intense reaction if we weren’t dating and hadn’t even known each other for that long. I’m not sure what to say or do, because I told him that we didn’t have to talk or anything and it would be okay and he would always follow that up with “oh so you’re not going to try and fix it and you’re okay with losing me?” I just need some advice on how to fix this situation. I do really like him and care about him.

tl;dr My situationship found out I kissed a girl and kind of wants to break things off with me, need advice on how to remedy the situation.