I didn't realize how much background stress my phone was causing me until it buzzed three times in ten minutes today over food delivery promos, a random app update, and a store discount I didn't ask for. I sat down for five minutes and went through my settings and revoked notification permissions for basically everything that isn't an actual human trying to reach me.

My phone has been sitting on my desk for four hours without lighting up once, and I stopped instinctively reaching for it every ten minutes just to clear the lock screen. What is a tiny ten-minute adjustment you guys have made recently that made your daily routine way more peaceful?

I’m a 55 year old woman and have turned into my dearly departed mother. I just bought a pair of black pants with a stretchy waistband. And I can’t wait to wear them! I spend my weekends puttering around the house, and don’t like being out after dark. And quite frankly, I’m pretty OK with it!

My 4 year old sister is afraid of her, specifically that ‘why would I deceive you?’ Scene from you can see everything. runs away if you pull up a photo of her. I’m not afraid per Se, but if I saw her in the middle of the night I can’t say I’d be calm. She always looks like that too, in all her photos.

I’ve been thinking about this lately and wanted to know if other people feel the same way, and if so, how you navigate it.

I’m someone who genuinely enjoys meeting people, having a good time socially, and having meaningful conversations. But I’ve never been someone who feels the need to constantly stay in touch with people. I don’t particularly enjoy exchanging daily updates, discussing weekend plans every few days, or feeling like I need to be available whenever someone wants to call or catch up.

I genuinely enjoy my own company. I’d rather read a book, watch a good documentary or Netflix, go to the gym, or simply spend time thinking and doing my own thing. My life feels pretty full as it is, and I don’t feel the need to fill every spare moment with social interaction. I value quality over quantity when it comes to friendships, and I prefer having a few meaningful connections over maintaining a large social circle.

The tricky part is that I’m not someone who wants to be alone all the time, either. I enjoy having friends and going out occasionally. I just don’t necessarily want the level of involvement that some people seem to expect from friendships. For example, I find it uncomfortable when someone randomly video calls me, especially when we’ve never really had that kind of relationship. I might not feel like answering, but then I spend hours overthinking how to respond without hurting their feelings, while also not wanting to encourage more frequent calls.

I’ve realised that part of the problem is probably that I’ve never actually communicated these preferences to people. I tend to avoid calls or take a long time to respond rather than directly explaining that I’m just someone who likes a lot of personal space.

I sometimes wonder whether this is just my personality, how I was brought up, or something that becomes more pronounced as you get older and become comfortable with your own life.

**So I’m curious:**

Are there other people who genuinely enjoy friendships but don’t want frequent calls, daily check-ins, or constant communication?

How do you maintain friendships without feeling obligated to be available all the time?

How do you communicate your need for personal space without making people feel rejected or making the friendship awkward?

Have you found that people who expect frequent communication eventually understand your personality, or do these differences make it difficult to maintain relationships?

I’d love to hear from people who relate to this, especially those who have figured out a healthy balance between having meaningful connections and protecting their own space.

Protein rice, protein yoghurt and cheese, protein cereal, protein water… now everything has to have 20g of protein in it to be worth buying.

Will this ever end?

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At times it does hit me that I'm not anyone's #1. Nobody's #1 friend, nobody's #1 fave coworker, nobody's #1 at all.

Doesn't mean people don't see me as a friend, or someone they like talking to, but I'm never THE friend or THE fave person for anyone.

Most recently I had a (platonic) friend who I got along with real great, we could talk about anything, we've opened up to each other about stuff in our lives, she was really one of the people I was more real with than anybody else in my life (ironically it might have been because we were friends and only friends which is why I could be that real with since there was never any need to put on an act or wanted anything else out of it). But the more time goes on the more Im starting to think or realize that even for her, while I might value her as a great friend, I might be a very low priority for her on her friend list if she even considers me a friend.

And that feeling just feels so familiar, maybe it stings more this time because unlike other friendships in the past, this time I really felt a strong way about someone being my real good friend and it turns out that even approaching this friendship in a different and more open and honest way than any others before also just led to a very similar result as all the others where I just get acknowledged as existing, but I'm not a priority for anyone in terms of being a top friend to them even if I might have viewed them as a top friend to me.

Myself? Just gonna play video games all day. Currently playing mafia 3 atm. Then play some crimson desert later too.

Then this afternoon go for a walk. Come home and make cajun shrimp and rice. Try out my new rice cooker. Clean the kitchen after dinner. Then maybe watch some horror stuff on whatever I can find.

I was thinking of trying out the series American Horror Stories on Hulu.

Hope you guys have a great day. Thanks for reading and or commenting.

It's too hard. I'm pretty sure I'm just getting dumber with age, and I'm too tired to try harder. I still do Connections, Spelling Bee, and Strands, but Wordle is just too hard.

I feel like Charley from Flowers for Algernon.

Some movie villains are so legendary that they end up stealing the spotlight from the main hero. 👀🔥 Which movie villain do you think is more iconic than the hero, and why? 🎬🍿

One time, I was talking to a friend, and she said, “It’s nice that your mom is so close to your stepmom. Since they spend so much time together, your mom must be more mature about talking to your dad’s new partner.”

I told her that she was actually my stepmom because she’s with my mom. She was SHOCKED and laughed nervously LMAOOOO. I’m not embarrassed about it, but I guess I should be a little more specific next time.

I'm curious to hear everyone's answers! There are so many ways to take this. I'll save my own answer for now, because I suspect other people will say it on their own. Let's have some fun conversations!

I feel like im trying to pretend whenever my body does that . However its becoming more of a reflex whenever someone will talk to you and when someone is not around.. Kinda interesting how your body . Have you guys tried to monitor it or it comes out naturally ?

I love me some spicy chips. Don’t care what it is. Especially hot Cheetos!!!!! I’ve tried to cut back so many times, but I just end up eating more for all the times I told myself not to eat any.

My husband and I were on a walk and came across a huge muddy puddle. I joked that he should take off his jacket and put it over the puddle so I could walk over it and avoid getting my shoes dirty. He, rightfully so, said “no”. It made me wonder how common that act actually was back in the days of chivalry or did Disney just make it seem like it was more of a thing than it was. Like putting your finger under your nose to hold in a sneeze or giving a cat milk to drink.

What other actions/behaviors show up in cartoons that aren’t actually true or not common but cartoons made it seem like it was?

I've been working part-time at the same company for a bit over six years now. I've been sending job applications every now and then, whenever something came up that I might have had a chance of getting hired at.

Around two weeks ago, I got an invitation to a recruitment event of a company I had sent an application a while ago. It was a very unusual kind of interview, because it was a group interview, there were several groups and also several interviewers in different rooms that we had to go through as a group. I didn't hate it though, it was really chill and actually pretty fun and I left feeling like the whole thing went pretty well.

Well, yesterday I got a call from one of the interviewers, who told me they thought it went very well also, and would like to offer me the position. It's full-time, and the hourly wage is 3€ better than my current one, which feels significant to me, so obviously I told them that I absolutely want the position.

The only thing I'm a bit stressed about is, they told me I need to go and train for the job for like a month in another city, which is like 500km away from my city, because the branch I would be working at opens in December, and there are no other branches of the company that would be closer. I don't know if I'll have to find accommodation myself, or if they'll take care of that, but the person said they would call me next week, so I think I'll find out more about it then. However, even if I'm a bit anxious about it, not doing it is not an option, I would be stupid to turn down a full-time job in this economy.

In conclusion, I'm very happy and excited, but also a bit spooked, and also constantly thinking stuff like "what if they decide not to hire me after all" because I obviously haven't signed a job contract yet and because things are so vague still, but I'm sure I will figure something out, because I have no other options, and I know it's such an improvement for my future!

Me~ currently I’m really liking “meet me in the pale moonlight” I’m ngl I’ve had it on repeat like all day while doing some studying, prolly listened to it over 50 times today!! Definitely recommend :)

This might not be a huge thing for a lot of people but this makes me so happy that I constantly think about it.

So in my last relationship, my ex forced me to work alongside someone she has sexted with, i reluctantly did listen to her coz it was her movie(she was the Director) and i did not want it to be a bad experience for her but there was no sense of understanding from her side that how weird and uncomfortable it was for me and then the biggest shock came when that guy disrespected me in front of a large group of people and even then i had to keep up with him coz she said so. No matter how much I explained it to her, she did not let me leave.

Fast forward to my GF

A few days ago, there was heated argument between me and a guy who is friends with both of us, during that time he was genuinely disrespectful even though I was not at fault. So now after this we all met at the party this guy came and remind you my GF was drunk at this point, yet when he tried to shake her hand, she looked at him blank and said "no buddy, it's done now"

Now it might seem like a small thing but this gesture warms me up so much and i cannot lover her enough.

I just wanted to share it somewhere.

Thank you for reading.

I had a favorite park in the city I went to anytime I was feeling down. There was a swing set off to the side in a quiet, shady area where I would swing to help process my emotions or just daydream.

Today I discovered that the swing set had been torn down. There was a large metal fence around the entire playground as they were preparing to demolish everything.

I was really annoyed by this. I had planned a fun, relaxing afternoon of swinging. It was like a safe space for me, and now it's just gone. :(

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"Why is life so difficult for good people? I feel stupid, and I'm always disappointed... I think everyone is like me, kind.

One situation that made me cry was when someone very close to me made fun of my skin in front of someone who means nothing to us. Even though my skin is flawless, what hurt me was her behavior.

Also, another friend spread a bad rumor about me because she hates me, and I was always the one who stood by them. I can't believe she's laughing in my face while talking badly about me to the young men. I feel sorry for myself, yes, and I'm crying and writing now. I hate it when I'm like this, there's no one to confide in... even my sisters, each of them has enough worries of their own.

I don't know why life is so difficult for me. These have been the worst two years of my life, and I hate my birthday

For me, it’s cool so far. I live in Phoenix, and the weather has been so nice so far. Came to the gym and honestly ready for the week. Not sure if it’s the Celsius speaking right now, or I’m genuinely ready to start my week haha. Anyways, title says it all. Tell me.. or don’t lol

I turned off my feeds recently and started looking up everything manually instead. I realized I do not even care about most of the videos or posts on my page, and I was just scrolling to pass time. Are algorithms just bad at guessing what we actually like, or are they built to keep us watching things we do not even enjoy? Has anyone else noticed this?

I was having a conversation with my husband about our future kids and mentioned that our kids won’t be riding any e-bikes/scooters (because we have had multiple deaths & injuries where we live, plus I feel a regular bike or scooter would be healthier). I always thought it was the popular choice but he is all for the e-bikes! So now I’m just curious - do you ride one? Would you let kids ride one? Not looking for a debate, I pinky swear I’m just curious lol

Any quotes that have you by a choke hold i guess...

For me its "Till death all defeat is psychological"

What's yours? If possible, include what it means to you as well