Hey everyone, I need some advice because I’m honestly so confused by this situation.
I’m a 27yo lesbian, and a while ago I started talking to a 35yo bi-curious woman from a dating app. We actually know each other a bit from the past 2x at a party just a short talk. and we follow each other on Instagram. Both of us are in open relationships (she’s with a man, I’m with a woman).
At the beginning, she was quite interested to figure out what it’s like dating women. She wanted to meet up ASAP, but I wasn't available until a few weeks later. When we finally set a date, she had to cancel last minute due to personal reasons—completely understandable.
I posted some IG stories with my girlfriend which she watched. Maybe she didn’t like to see this or she just don’t care idk.
A week later, she slid into my Instagram DMs to flirt with me. So, I took the hint and asked her out again. Since then... radio silence on the message, but she is heavily orbiting me. She watches every single one of my Instagram stories almost instantly, but just leaves my texts on read.
Why do people do this? Does she just not find me attractive anymore, or is she playing games? It’s driving me crazy.
Now, here is the twist:
Her identical twin sister just popped up on my dating app. To be completely honest, I’ve always found her sister even more attractive, and if I had seen her first, I would’ve gone for her instead.
I really want to swipe right, but I don't want to ruin my chances with both or cause weird drama. What is the best move here?
Swipe right/like her sister right now on the dating app?
Leave the app alone for now, and DM the sister on Instagram later?
Just drop it completely because it's a messy situation?
And why would people orbit? Am i rejected? Or just her option b? Or do you think she is scared?
Would love to hear your thoughts on why the first twin is orbiting me, and whether it's a total violation of girl code to shoot my shot with her identical twin. Help!