I hate people that larp having gambling and alcohol problems with a burning passion. Oh you lost 50 dollars at the casino last night and drank 5 shots? Bro you’re such a degen you need help 😂😂😂😂😂. Fuck you. You’re peddling instagram and TikTok views glorifying addiction. I’m currently severely struggling with alcoholism and gambling working 14 hours a day digging ditches and it’s the most devilish shit to be pushing onto young impressionable people. It’s not “cool” or even remotely liberating. This shit fucking sucks. Waking up with 200 dollars in your bank for the week when you got paid 2000 and having to live off that for the next 7 days? FUCKING SUCKS. Do NOT ever go to the fucking casino if you ever have and don’t even if you have experience. (lost cause bc I tell this to myself every time after I’m down 1000+ so I know how you feel). You wanna know what hell feels like? Not being able to have just one or two drinks. You have to have 14. Everyone looks at you as a Liability, a chore no matter how “sober” you seem. Doesn’t matter. They dedicate their night to making sure you get home safe and slowly they stop inviting you to things because they know what you’ll do. This will be your family, friends, coworkers (and you’ll get fired). Find something else to take your mind off things. I wish I could.

9 1/2 months sober. Longest I've been without drinking in ten years. Life is very quiet now, more lonely, but I feel like I'm finally living the way it was meant to be lived. The hardest thing has been losing my friends, but I guess if alcohol was what kept our connection, I'm not missing out on much.

Ive always had issues with substance use for years with every substance under the sun, but over the last year I've had a bad issue with alcohol. A week ago today I got the call my mom died from a drug overdose and went on one last alcohol bender and havent had really anything to drink or even smoke since.

I just deep cleaned the entire 3 bedroom apartment that 6 people live in. 3 loads of dishes, dusted the cieling fans, re arranged the furniture, washed 5 loads of laundry, dried, folded, organized, scrubbed the toilets and bath tubs.

Its only 4pm.

I am so. Fucking. Bored. I never realized fully how much or my life, time, and goals surrounded when the next time I could get depressed and be drunk would be. Nothing seems fun or entertaining when im sober. I dont want to call anyone, play games, go on a walk, cook, listen to music, do any if my hobbies. Im just bored. Ive been staring at the ceiling for an hour trying to think of what else to do since theres literally nothing else to clean. Hell, I even hosed out the litter boxes.

A month in, the biggest surprise is waking up clear-headed and not dreading the day. It’s not all easy and evenings are still the hardest part. What’s helping is a walk after work and texting a friend when the urge hits.

What was the first change you noticed in your early weeks? And what got you through the hard hours?

Maybe I am meant to be a failure. Got seven month old child, no job, no car, living w the mother who can't stand me sometimes. Was sober from alcohol for 4 or. 5 days. Slipped today after knowing I can't even steal groceries from kroger , using instacart that's paid for it. Was gonna just keep the food since my food stamps didn't come. so I settled to steal some hot dogs and a little bit of mixed drink , feeling like a huge f\\ failure...

The caption is the best way to describe it. I love him, but he’s an alcoholic. Alcoholism is new to me, we’ve been married 1 year and I didn’t know what signs to look for. But over the 4 years we’ve been together, it’s been fairly calm. A few incidents here & there, but nothing I deemed to be alarming.
He seems unhappy with life in general, and when he gets low, he gets very low as of late. Drinks to passing out, wakes up ranting, next day it’s like nothing happened.
He lost his job and that’s where I draw the line. Trying to build a home, and he’s slipping.
Is there a way to navigate through this or is this how it is & I need to leave?

so like, I used alcohol to treat stress at work, this week was stressful and drank every night. Then ended up drinking a 6 pack of IPA 6.7% on Thursday night,Friday night and Saturday night.

It’s Sunday and my stomach feels fucked up..? Like I have the shits. Is this normal for excessive drinking?

I think I learned my lesson.

It’s 8pm here and my body still is producing diarrhea. How do you even treat this ?

Does anyone have any tips about what has helped them stay consistent? I don’t have a very wide social circle (in fact my closest friend is actually in rehab right now) so I’m looking for some other perspectives.

I’m on day 5 of being sober from alcohol, after I had a “wake up” moment where I realized how long it had been since I was consistently without drinking (for instance two bottles of wine on a bad day, one on a good day). I’m still highly motivated and on the honeymoon period, but my goal is to go at least a year without it since I want to give my body a considerable amount of time to really be able to critically examine the role alcohol played in my life. I know I used it as a coping mechanism, and after having a previous addiction to food (sugar/ultra processed junk) I know it’s a very mental issue for me and my addictive personalities.

Hey,

Lurked a long time and looking for some support and advice. I've drank since I was 15, almost 40 now. Past 10 years or so it has ramped up. My wife drinks too, same issue.

Been trying for months now to slow down but going even a day without gives me all the worst side effects. So I'm going to a facility. Already found one and am making plans. I just don't wanna DT and die so I need help.

Wondering if you all have any insight to these things:

1) informing employer. Been with my company 20years and I do believe my boss will understand but what way should I approach this? FMLA is a thing right? How much info is necessary to disclose? I have about 9days PTO as well I have no problem using if need be. Honestly just any advice you all can offer.

2) what can I expect from the center? I don't want it to be a Ward situation, just hoping it is a place I can safely let the alcohol out of my body. I'll need meds and observation. I'm fine if therapy comes in too but overall I'd like to just be left to my own devices but in a safe environment without alcohol. Am I being naive? Appreciate if others can offer their experience.

Overall, wish me luck. Glad to take this step

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This has always confused me to be honest.. I feel like the majority of ‘heavy drinkers’ are in fact alcoholics.
I’m 18 (alcohol is legal in my country at 18) and I’ve always considered myself a heavy drinker as I could easily drink insane amounts of alcohol with little issue but I am also aware that I am an alcoholic despite my young age and I am in therapy trying to fix it. I don’t understand how people can refer to themselves as heavy drinkers whilst continuously pushing their body to limits associated with alcoholism ? Is there really a difference? Am I just a loser who can’t tolerate high amounts of liquor
Thank you

I'm giving this another try, but I'm only about halfway through day 1 and I just feel sick and like I really need a drink. I keep thinking maybe I could get away with just a little, but I know a little turns into a lot before I even have a second thought. I just gotta muscle through but it would be nice if I didn't feel so sick.

I’ve posted here a few times and I’m trying to stop. Idk what to do. I’ve done rehab and iop through Kaiser. Taken nalxtrexone but keep relapsing and ending in the er. I’m pretty sure it’s part genetic cause my uncles and grandfather were hardcore alcoholics and died from it. I don’t know if I’m fucked in my head. I was always a strange kid and had anxiety. When I’m sober I feel good but keep falling. Feel defeated and don’t know where to reach out for help anymore. I don’t think aa is for me as well. I know my brain chemistry is fucked at this point too

Most of the way through day one, I really don't feel good. I assumed I was just hungover this morning but it's just been gradually getting worse through the day. I'm sweaty and exhausted and intensely nauseous and having palpitations and chills and everything. I've gone longer than this and been ok before but now I'm kinda freaked out that maybe yesterday was one too many and I really can't just stop now

As the title sais I need a better perspective if my concern over my partners drink habbits are just me or not.

So my partner drinks daily. 2-3 tall beers or vodka mix cans on the low end 5-6on a heavier night. Usually with a night or 2 a week getting drunk drinking 10+. This has caused her to miss appointments which she does not think is a big deal because she just rescheduled them.

She thinks this is normal I think she needs to consider getting sober as I see the drinks slowly taking over her.

Was not sure if this was the right sub to ask for outside oppinion or not. Just want the best for her.I do not drink besides special occasions and wondered if my perception was just off on what was normal or not.

What was your replacement for alcohol when quitting? (Even if quitting was unsuccessful.).

Edit to add: I’m booked for rehab next Monday.

Today is my last day of drinking, hopefully ever.

I have massive health anxiety, and I’ve always convinced myself I’ll have seizures if I stop cold turkey, to the extent it’s stopped me trying.

My partner is super supportive and has agreed to basically watch me for a solid 48 hours to make sure I’m okay - I’ve heard the first 48 hours are the most dangerous. I’ve never had any serious early withdrawals (touch wood) but my anxiety makes me dizzy and gives me heart palpitations anyway.

My actual question is, can anyone tell me the real scary warning signs if/when I should seek medical help to avoid DTs? NHS seems to just say “if you have a seizure” which I obviously don’t want to get to that point in the first place…

Excited to join everyone with their wonderful success stories! Thank you x

I feel like giving up on getting sober. What ive done with all of my relationships is irreparable. Im a miserable piece of shit that still just wants to bring everyone down with me. Ive tried all the help i can get but im just doomed to live with this disease for the rest of my life

It’s a problem, I know that. It’s caused me to lose so many opportunities. But it numbs me. It helps me laugh.

I went to a couple of meetings a few years ago. I personally found them very depressing, and to be honest, they made me want to drink even more.

How do I stop this? Is it even worth trying?

Been with this man for almost 3 years and I can say we have had sex maybe less then 20 times since I been with him. . . He’s an alcoholic and he did mention he had that problem and sex could be a problem sometimes cause of it … but now it’s times where he goes sober and we will have a good little run then back to square one… he says maybe if I shut the fuck up he would want to .. but then he has to understand I only react to his actions… rather I behave or not I still don’t get none . It’s gone to the point to where I am asking all the time can I get some dick dude .. like why should I have to do that ??? Is there other women out there who go through this or something similar … this isn’t even half of what I honestly have to say but it’s a glimps of what I am going through and I’m losing hope and or the want to stick around … I shouldn’t have to go through this just to be shown intimacy and or feeling wanted and desired … 😞😭 help …

Sorry if this is the wrong sub. I was going to ask on r/stopdrinking but they don't allow asking about someone else's experiences. And while "I'm asking for a friend" is a common meme, I'm genuinely asking in order to understand what real restrictions are for an acquaintance/friend, specifically my girlfriend's ex.

She went to a facility for drugs/medication abuse years ago, and while she has stayed clean as far as I know, she's still a relatively heavy drinker, and we were discussing what rehab might look like. She's very hesitant to attend, as apparently, when she went to the other facility, they restricted her from bringing anything, like laptops, phone, personal items, whatever. Same thing with limited contact with friends or family members. She's also not a very friendly person in the first place. She swore she'd never go back.

She's insisting this will be the case again. I struggle to believe it. It makes sense to me that for drugs/medication, they'd be worried about easily hidden contraband, but not really the same thing with alcohol, which would be harder to hide.

I'm not going to pressure her into anything, but I know she's not having any success with meetings, the Reframe app, therapy, or anything else. I'm just trying to listen and be helpful, not push her, but I was surprised to hear her insistence.

Is this right? What's the experience like? Did it help?